r/abdl

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Our community posted thousands of comments here, of individuals stating their cities/states/countries, which can be easily sorted, searched through and viewed by anyone 18+. This may or may not give you a chance to meet that special someone irl, by making you and your profile visible to lots of people interested in ABDL friendships, relationships or meetups. Keep in mind that posting your location here gives the public consent of that knowledge, as this is pinned and may be seen for awhile.

Start by navigating continent/countries. Tap thread to collapse it, or use the search icon to look for your area through comments more quickly

Whoever lives in which country, reply with your state/region/city, and others will go along with theirs, and someone could possibly reply with a city or state nearby to you, or maybe you’ll notice someone you like who already commented and start a PM, or receive one! Let’s see how it goes☺️ (Please no spam/scams)

Backstory: I made this post because of one made here exactly like this in the past, it got very popular so I replied w/ my city, and actually got lucky I guess because I got found by and met (via getting pmed), a cute diaper girl my age, only like 45 mins away who I liked too. We talked for awhile, me and her both with these interests, regularly talking about diapers like it’s just a cute and normal thing (which was new and exciting to me), eventually we had a first date, ending with us cuddled up in bed, all padded up, it felt great and was amazing, being a new experience for me. Worth it! And would be too for anyone else seeking true friendship and mutual connection, or an ABDL relationship! By sharing the love of diapers, littles, Md/lb, Dd/lg, and more, or by just making casual friends from here😊

So I’m posting this here as a chance for people to connect a lot of the scattered parts of this community, hopefully making it a lil easier for abdls to meet irl! 💘

Just please take caution with who you interact with here, as I’m pretty sure this post opened doors for fake profiles and scammers to do their thing. Wishing everyone the best (:

(STL MO, 24M)

After 6+ posts a day for the past week about the new XXL Goodnites that have been released, let's do one big thread to discuss them! What do you like about them? What do you wish was different? Keep in mind that this community is not the target audience for this product, even if we really really enjoy them.

Share your thoughts!

(In order to reduce the amount of spam posts and single sentence contributions, all new threads created about the new goodnites will be removed as spam.)

Hi I'm 13 weeks pregnant and I'm almost in my second trimester I've always been an abdl for as long as I can remember but I've been thinking and can I balance being an abdl and being a mom what if my kid finds out and is it even possible to balance both without it being weird? I'm kind of at a loss here any advice would be helpful. Oh and my husband is supportive but he's also been asking the same question he just doesn't want me to get discouraged.

Hi there, my first time posting. Im confident enough to do it now. :)

I'm 22 now and over the last few years I discovered, that I had these thoughts about being treated more like we all in this community. There were times where I bought myself a pacifier or a milk bottle. But I never really dared to live the whole thing. Until yesterday, where I finally found myself going to a store and made the first step by buying a pack of diapers. Because that's what was for me personally the missing part of it.

I hesitated for a few hours. But then I put my first diaper on and didn't just wore it. Nope! I actually used it too. And honestly? It felt really good.

I was super nervous at first. I didn’t know how I’d feel, or if I’d end up regretting it. But once it was on, those nerves kind of faded. It felt soft, safe, and strangely comforting. Then I laid down on my sofa and felt kind of happy. Safe and also a little cute. That went on all evening, but at some point I had to pee very urgently. At the time, I was not sure whether I would use the diaper or take it off, go to the toilet and then put on the diaper again. But I gathered all my confidence that I had and I tried very hard to let go. My mind was clearly not ready for that, something was blocking me from using it. After a little relaxation, I finally used it. It wasn’t weird like I thought it might be. It actually felt natural, and it was kind of a relief in a way I wasn’t expecting. It just made sense in that moment. I wasn’t grossed out or embarrassed. Instead, I felt calm, cared for, and honestly kind of proud that I finally tried something I’ve wanted to do for a veeeery long time. It made me realize that this is something that feels right for me. Not in a silly or shameful way, but in a genuine, comforting way that makes me feel more like myself. I’m really glad I did it, and yep. I’ll definitely be doing it again today.

Just wanted to share that with you! This community gave me the confidence to write about it and finally try it out. And sorry if my wording is not that perfect, English is not my first language :D

I am a trans girl and I have literally zero strength, so this may not apply to everyone, but I really hate bringing home boxes of diapers and bringing out used ones.

I weighted them and they are about 200 g when new, and 1.5 kg when used. Since ordering in bulk is much cheaper, I usually buy four packs at a time, which are 60 diapers with a total weight of 12 kg. It may not seem a lot, but as a thin trans girl I really struggle to bring them from my apartment complex's reception to my home, which is about a 500 m walk. Luckily I have to do this once a month and I'm moving in with my boyfriend soon so it won't really be a problem anymore.

For used diapers, that's about 3 kg per day, I usually throw them every two days so that's another 6 kg to throw away, not really heavy but still annoying to do.

Am I the only one?

Wearing diapers and reading stuff about them like on this sub makes me absolutely soak my pants with precum. For me when I put a diaper on I’m like a precum machine. It turns me on so much I’m like a dripping faucet. It only gets worse when I wet. If I wear for like an hour the entire middle of my diaper is soaked and slippery from it and it makes it feel like even better? Honestly if I was wearing regular underwear and watching some diaper girl stuff I’d be wetting it through my pants. Anyone else like this? Also I know we wear for different reasons - why are you people wearing? I thought this was all based on kink but I know it’s different for different people now

Is it just me or do you all like ration diapers. im in a financial position where i can afford them and only wear when im home but ill like have ones sectioned off for certain days, not only by my favorites but like this weekend i get 4 but i get so many during the week?? i feel like i got the last pack in the world everytime i buy some and i just use sparingly even tho i wanna use them as much as possible haha

Are there Abdl’s from the Netherlands over here? I want to connect with you!

This is the original post (22m) I’ve recently accepted that I’m a diaper lover it feels weird just typing it out but I’ve known for years that I like diapers I just love wetting and then going to bed or just lay around I’ve been with my husband for four years married last year and I’ve bought a pack or two of diapers here and there.

Recently I’ve been on the road for work gone three weeks at a time and in this time I’ve come to accept that I love wearing diapers. The problem is I tell my husband everything he is vanilla and I have no idea how he would react if I told him I like sleeping in a wet diaper.

I want to tell him so bad but I’m too scared he’s my soul mate and I don’t want to lose him ever he’s the only reason I’m still alive. I don’t know what to do I’m terrified, have no idea what to do, and just need some advice.

Now on to the update so a few days after posting this I got advice and encouragement from great people thank yall and decide to tell my husband it was our anniversary and we got a hotel room for privacy we had a great day and we decided to play a couples card game we were having fun and in the back of my head I was trying to figure out how to bring up the fact that I like to wear diapers

I drew a card asking me what is my biggest fantasy or drink twice I chocked a little bit and decided this was it I tried saying it but the word wouldn’t come out so I backed down but thankfully my husband was naturally curious and asked me about it we went back and forth and finally I typed the word diapers and gave it to him he read it and said really and I told him yes and he just told me to look at him and he said baby nothing is ever gonna stop making me love you

It was such a blur my anxiety was through the roof and all for no reason he asked me some questions and I explained what ABDL means and explained that I’m on the DL side he made me feel so loved and he even made some jokes which helped me calm down I will never stop loving this man so thank yall for listening and advice I feel much freer and happy that I can be myself around my husband thank yall

Did any of you live your life as a little as a daily normal thing and then have to put it away when you had children?

Background I use my pacifier ,sippy cups , bottles , Little kid plates, forks , cups, things like that. And even like my stuffed animals and child theme blankets as my normal.

My wife really wants a baby and I feel very sad about having to hide all my “normal“ stuff when I become a parent. My wife does little things with me and gets things for little me all the time.

I’m very worried about losing my daily little stuff and my mommy when we move forward with having a child.

Any similar situations or advice on how to cope ?

This always happens to me… once I bought some overnight boosters I started putting them in every single diaper I wear unless I know I’ll be walking a lot. Right now I’ve got a huge diaper on a work and I’m waddling EVERYWHERE. 😭 I’m too stubborn to take it off.

Anyone else have a problem of accidentally putting on a bigger diaper than you should have?

One time I wore a boosted diaper to the bar with friends and ofc the one who’s seen pull ups in my drawer a long time ago asked “why you walking like that” and I just said I was high and drunk.

So a few months back tarriffs raised to 27% and diaper companies raised prices accordingly to account for the cost increase. Now we’re up to 145% and after googling I’ve seen plans to raise it to 245% any idea on how much this is going to make prices raise even more? Currently on the $200/mo subscription through Tykables so hoping it stays the same but planning for it to raise.

QUESTION: What is the longest time you have spent in one diaper, and how did it feel!?

Is it down to just ABDreams and individual models producing their own stuff? MessyDiapers/PunishedinDiapers doesn’t seem to have updated since 2017 as far as I can tell. Are there any domestic studios catering to our fetish anymore?

I was a fan of the old ones as a actually bed-wetter so I wanted to know if they are actually worth it lol

So without sharing too many details, a person was giving away a bunch of unbuilt models. They told me they were going to leave them for me by the garage. When I pulled up there was a stack of boxes. As I was walking up I noticed one of them was a huge Attends box! They’re giving me free supplies to diaper up while building models?!? Alas, it was full of models. Super happy I got a giant box full of models and also sad I got a giant box full of models.😁

I am a 33 M DL. I've known about this kink since I was 17. I never really brought it up with partners. I would occaisionally watch DL videos. At most, it was a once a month thing prior to 2018. I did engage with it more frequently when my brother passed in 2017. In recent years, I did start wearing and it affirmed that this is a genuine thing. There is a pee/humiliation aspect to it, but there is also a comfort/feeling protected aspect. The latter seems to be the bigger appeal.

As the years went on, the shame of having this kink built up. In 2024, I had tried to get rid of it. I ended up with severe pelvic floor pain to the point where I could not sit without pain or go to the bathroom without pain. I did have to see a pelvic floor therapist too. I was also feeling like I needed to rush to the toilet. I did wear diapers because I genuinely felt like I was going have an accident. The pain only really went away when I stopped trying to get rid of this diaper kink. It helped that I had a therapist to help work through this.

I am at a point where I accept the kink. At the same time, there's a stuckness. As far as partners go, it feels like the prospects are not so good. There's a fear of finding someone I have a lot in common with, but this kink ends up being a dealbreaker. If I do seek out someone who shares this interest, there's a fear we will have nothing else in common. No matter how okay I become with this kink, I feel like I will have to be careful when it comes to finding a partner. Even with therapists, I have had to be careful when talking about this.

Is there a certain brand y’all like taking? I’m really into Camino and Drops. Mostly indica

Sorry in advance for the novel, and feel free to skip on to another post if it’s too much. But if you are up for a read, a glimpse of my current state of affairs and might enjoy offering some feedback, by all means read on.

I have been on the fence about re-approaching this with my wife. I know this is a frequent topic, so sorry if this feels like beating a dead horse. Basically, she wasn’t into when I brought it up when still dating, but also not restrictive of it beyond just saying she wouldn’t ever be into it. Beyond that, I think she just followed my lead. And in my place of shame, that was explaining I just wanted her to know (though I only told her the tip of the iceberg), that it was something I indulged by myself, and I didn’t need to discuss it again.

After a great deal of work and self acceptance, I got pretty damn close to bringing it up and explaining it more. Just explaining I didn’t give her a full picture, would like to be less secretive, and find a compromise we can both be happy with. I’m much more content now but there’s still just this desire to know that she really knows what this is for me, and can explicitly allow some space for it.

It always felt like the wrong time though. There were years of infertility. Then she underwent a surgery. Then that removed a barrier and we got pregnant. I want to put her and our new family first. I don’t want to add stress to her or bring on what might be complicated feelings for her. I know it’s different, but I still can’t help but think the idea of her husband wanting to wear diapers might dampen her joy of expecting our new baby. She waited so long for this and I just want her to be happy in this moment of our lives.

I had surgery this morning and, due to the nature/location of it, getting up to pee is excruciating. It takes a long time and I have to basically be supported by my wife physically the whole time. Meanwhile, I know I have a solution to this that would bring me comfort and make things a lot easier but it feels wrong to try to unpack all this in this way.

Then later we were talking about supporting each other in times of need. She brought up me taking care of things when she has to wear adult diapers after giving birth. I almost just said, “well at least you know I won’t be weirded out by that part at all.” I had this fleeting thought that that was a perfect opening to discuss things again.

But it has never been discussed after that initial coming out. Not once in 6 years of life together. I know I set that up with the way I told her originally though. She also would not typically be the one to bring up even more tame sex stuff. But if I bring something up she’s usually calm and willing to discuss things openly.

I stopped myself and thought about it though. I worried she might find using a time of need to bring it up as a cheap move and manipulative. And was I really just going to be like “remember my kink about women in diapers, well I like wearing them as much as seeing them on adult women. And I could just avoid this pain if I wore a diaper right now. And I have some in the house already. Oh and will you change me bc doing it myself will be just as painful as getting up to pee?” I also didn’t want her to feel like I would be sexualizing her in her time of need post-partum. As much as I often feel content just focusing on putting my wife and unborn baby before my kink related desires, things like this happen and make me wonder if it’s just going to come out. It’s a little reminder that yeah, the desire will always be there in some capacity.

So I guess beyond just wanting to rant about this into this subreddit, are there any partners or married people out there that might have some thoughts on this?

I might have a little trouble wording this. But I just want to see if anyone can share their experience with me or if they have any tips or if they have any suggestions. And if they don’t mind sharing how much they make ( I’m a guy and I’m gay ✌️) dms are open I think

I’ve been home watching movies ✨

Original post https://www.reddit.com/r/ABDL/s/DIQTnMzrdh

Firstly, thank you to all who commented. This genuinely is a sub full of good eggs.

So, my case of diapers arrived today. Fits in nicely with some leave I have taken over the Easter/Anzac day public holidays we have in Australia. Currently padded up having a quiet beer, watching The Bondsman, and deciding what to make for dinner. Much more relaxed and centered already.

Again, a big thank you to everyone for your kind words.

Sharing an enjoyable moment from this past weekend while having a date night with my fiancé (Cee). After spending Thursday Night through Saturday Morning diapered non-stop, I wanted to switch it up and put on my gentlemanly charm for my love by taking her out to a well deserved dinner. I got dressed in one of her favorite outfits of mine (pressed tan khakis with an ocean blue polo), and told her we had a reservation set at our local steak house. She smiled and got up from her desk to wrap her arms around my neck. Before letting me slip out of the hug, her hand slid down my back for a routine squeeze on the bottom. Cee looked up at me in slight shock with a wry smile, telling me she did not remember letting me wear big boy boxers. "Go put a pull-up on big guy. You better keep it dry if you want boxers next time." I smiled and obeyed, changing once more before we left a few minutes later.

By the time we had been sat at our table, I had regained my dignity, thinking nothing of my change in undergarments. As soon as we put our drinks and appetizers in with our waiter, Cee turned to me and instructed I better go try and use the little boys room before I get too distracted with dinner. Once again, I knew better than to question Cee's firm request, and made off to the bathroom for a tinkle. I was caught off guard at how much I enjoyed "successfully using the potty" with my pull-ups tucked down around my ankles, nested in my pants. I made my way back to the table, receiving some soft praise from Cee as I took my seat.

The rest of our dinner was like any other date night we've had. We made each other laugh, shared memes between courses, and finished a bit full from a chocolate lava cake. Once we returned home, we watched an episode of Yellowstone before Cee called it a night, leaning over for a kiss on her way off to shower before bed. I told her I was going to catch up on some dishes before joining her in bed soon. She gave me one last squeeze on my bottom, and gave me blissful mommy praise for staying dry. A few minutes later I hear the shower running upstairs as I am several plates in to the dishwasher. I realized then as the hot sink water poured that I had not tinkled since the restaurant. I figured I was about to change before bed anyway, so I might as well use my pull up and ditch it in the trash before joining Cee in our room with a fresh one.

I paused the dish scrubbing, spread my stance, and held on to the counter with both hands as I released a moderately full bladder into my pull up. Just as I'm starting to feel the end of my stream, visibly sagging between my legs, my heart jumps as I see Cee round the corner of the fridge. I was caught red-handed. "Turn around. Let me see." Shamefully, I faced my fiancé. "Drop your pants 'big guy'. I guess my praise was a bit premature." I tried to protest that I was going to change anyway, but Cee was having none of it. Instead, I was led by my wrist up to the shower, dropped my soaking pull-up on the tile floor, and rinsed off in the tub inches apart from Cee.

Fast-forward to three nights later, and I haven't seen a pull-up outside of my work attire since. I adore that Cee indulges my little side, even when I make the decision to put away the diapers and give her my unaltered adult self for the evening. Through that choice, I now find myself diapered 24/7 until the weekend. The irony is delightful. I feel so blessed to be marrying Cee later this year.

I am mildly worried that diaper sellers may actually increase prices for everyone so that they can avoid raising the prices in the USA so much. Like make everyone pay 30% more to not make americans pay double (what Sony is trying to do).

I live in Europe and of course I am not willing to subsidize tariffs or any of the Trump actions, so in case any shop I buy from were to do such thing, I would stop buying from them altogether and go to someone else. So far I've not seen any price increases, luckily.

I buy from Crinklz, ABU and BetterDry, and like everyone else, they produce in China and ship from an Europe warehouse, so it's pretty safe to assume that any possible price increase in the near future can be attributed to US tariffs.

What do you think?

I've been searching for someone whose into abdl so that I can finally try it after thinking about it for so long, but no matter what forums, sites, or searches i use, I can't find anybody. I'm in Savannah Georgia, which is super populated, so I thought it would be easier. Any advice?

Heyyo, everyone! I'm relatively new to ABDL, and have tried some diapers before but soon I'll finally be able to work towards having my own stash of ABDL gear like diapers, pacis, bottles, etc and was wondering what you all would recommend for storage or brands in general for gear!

For context: I'm almost at my goal of joining the military and will (hopefully soon) have my own space. More than likely, it would be an apartment and not a house since I don't have a spouse but would love to hear your thoughts on what sort of storage you'd recommend for a smaller floor plan. Ideally I'd like to keep it in a closet but have its own dedicated area, if that makes any sense?