r/affairs
TL;DR - Posts which use large regions (#southwest, for example) or nations (#UK, for example) as a location will be removed going forward.
We are modifying the location rule in order to make posts more useful. From this point forward we will be requiring a geographic description which at least as specific as a state in the United States. For those of you outside the US, please use your best judgement according to the size of your country and consider using something more local. As a rule of thumb, if it take more than 4 hours to get from one end of your country to the other by car, you should use a more local location.
We encourage all posters to be even more specific than state (county or city), but we understand comfort level with regards to OPSEC is important.
If you’d like to submit feedback on this change, please send a modmail.
This is just a posting alerting members here of what is coming. This won't effect the sub in anyway but those of you that make posts and note to use forms of contact be advised to adjust as needed.
https://www.reddit.com/r/reddit/comments/1jf1bxy/private_messages_will_be_replaced_with_reddit/
I love my life, not looking to change anything. Not looking to bash my husband and I would never leave him.
I would love to have an online life with a man to supplement the small gaps in my real life. Would love someone who says all the pretty things, is funny and smart...of course, I want the sexy stuff too. Looking for something long-term with someone open to deep emotional connection. Prefer someone over 25.
I'm 5'5, all tits and no ass, a few extra pounds (those last few pounds are the hardest to lose), tan all over, brown eyes and black hair.
Hello from London!
I'm Ben – tall, genuine, smart, fit, good-looking, clean, kind, funny, experienced, considerate, curious, and above all, humble and cough modest.
You owe it to yourself to take a few minutes out of your day to chat with me. I'm here to make you feel beyond awesome - and in doing so myself too.
Let’s skip the usual British tendency to discuss the weather and instead have a proper, grown-up conversation about what makes you tick, your hopes, dreams, and secrets.
B
PS – You look amazing today. Have you done something with your hair?
Calling all Lurkers… Here's what they are saying about Alex the Aussie
"He's really tall. Great for getting things off high shelves." — That tiny woman at the shops
"Smells great. Nothing like a Koala." — Person who sat next to him on the plane during his last trip to America.
"Has a great taste in music and tv shows /movies. Always spot on with his recommendations." — Guy he works with.
"Doesn't Ghost." — AP 1
"I didn't mind his cooties." - Sophie, middle school crush
"The authoritative voice is a turn-on. I could listen to that man read the phone book." — the customer service representative at the bank
"He watched some of my 'girl' shows with me and didn't try change the channel to the basketball." — W
"He's a nice man. You could do worse!" — Your mum
"He makes a great bowl of porridge." — His son "Really a good kisser. He gave me an "Aussie Kiss." - AP 2
"Easy on the eyes. Very easy on the eyes." — Gym crush
"Not a psycho." - Everyone
Hey there!
I'm a 30-year-old guy from Australia, standing at 6'1", tan, l've been described as conventionally attractive, but l'd rather leave that up to you to judge. I've been married for 10 years, but I find myself yearning for something new, a connection that's thrilling and just for me. I'm seeking a fun, outgoing woman who knows how to enjoy life and can hold a meaningful conversation. Age between 25-45 doesn't matter, and location is irrelevant-l'm open to meeting someone no matter where you are.
I'm passionate about adventure, whether it's spontaneous road trips, trying new foods, or just having a laid-back chat. I believe in living fully and experiencing the world around me.
So, if you're a woman who's fun, attractive, adventurous, and knows what you want out of life, I'd love to hear from you. Let's create our own story.
A <3
I’ve got an absolutely insatiable sex drive that is being desperately underserved. I need to scratch this itch and the thought of doing it with someone new is exciting.
I’m very vocal, well-endowed, tall, attractive and in shape, I absolutely love eating pussy and ass - even better if my hot sticky cum is dripping from either hole and overall love nothing more than engaging in that primal lust and need to fuck, eat and claim a woman. Bonus points if the fact I’m taken turns you on.
I am: - 33 - Tall - Hung - Very vocal - A heavy cummer - A huge fan of oral, eating pussy and ass satisfies me to no end, especially if my hot sticky cum is leaking out… - Conventionally attractive
Drop me a message if this grabs your attention.
Im a 40 year old married white male who lives in Colorado looking for hopefully what you are looking for, a new connection. I feel stuck in my life. A dead bedroom, a dead-end job, and 4 kids under 10. I'm looking for someone in the same or similar situation. Wanting to find a friend that can develop into something more and deeper. Online or in real life or a combo of both. I just want to have that spark that seems to have been lost. I have many hobbies. I love cooking, traveling, science, history, astronomy, movies, and video games.
Hello, I posted a little bit ago and had some great interactions. But I am looking to replace what I had. No superficial conversation. Actually putting the time and work in. I found that with someone, but she needed to go and I respected that. But the whole is pretty big. Can you fill the void?
Married, no kids, professional male. Not my first rodeo and I am not built to help you if this is yours. Athletic build, beard. I have the time, wealth, and motivation to make something work. I have in the past, I am determined to in the future.
Idk... dumb headline, but you're reading it now, so it worked. Looking for a regular meetup situation... texts, talks... idk, what do you got? Doesn't matter what I say anyhow.. people will shoot their shot no matter what I'm looking for and make me drag the info out of them.. one painful message at a time .. but it's an in town affair with a 40 ish married man that's as dead inside as myself I'm after. Hopefully 🤞🏼 you can charm my pants off like nobody has so far been able to. Good luck 🍀 Please have thought about this and know this is what you want before reaching out. Getting to know someone via text is tricky… if you don’t have the aptitude, don’t try, bc I don’t live this part and don’t want to put energy into someone that’s wishy washy.
Howdy! Mid 40’s Dad-bod type (but working on it) white guy here. In a dead bedroom situation as I imagine most of you to be. No kids on this end. No problem with them, we just don’t have any.
I’m looking for someone relatively close to connect with both on a friendship level as well as (hopefully) a physical level. I know that last part takes time. So I’m throwing a line out. There’s a picture of me in my post history if you’re interested.
Close to: Pasadena, Monrovia, Alta Dena, Alhambra, Glendale, Burbank, Hollywood, Eagle Rock.
Hi! Normally I am not the kind of person that would make this kind of post, but I realized the person I am looking for wouldn't make one either. So here I am!
Let me preface this with the fact that I am not very good at talking about myself unprompted. If you're interested in learning more about me I'd be more than glad to answer any questions!
I am looking for someone that I can consistently talk to and care for. Ideally, the relationship would be a healthy mixture of a SFW and NSFW relationship. It is extremely important to me to form a solid foundation before things become too physical/sexual. I consider myself to be a very kind person, and a good communicator! I take pride in being kind to everyone :). I work from home so I tend to have plenty of times for texting and calls! I am lucky that I typically love my job and programming. In my free time I like to program, cook, learn new things and adventure! I am always interested in trying out new things, especially when I am with someone else who is passionate about it! I am looking for someone to revel with, someone who I can be best friends with! I tend to be most attracted to kind, warm hearted people. I want someone who cares about things as much as I do!
Lastly, I would like to say that these kinds of relationships can be complicated to navigate, so patience, communication, and empathy are some of the most important traits you I could ask for.
I hope this got your attention :)
Hello Women,
I'm a married man, here to talk to a girl (preferably married and under 40). I'm 6ft tall and brown skinned.
Lets start with knowing each other and then maybe we can get dirty as time passes. I'm not rushing into anything. I'm shy and pretty introverted.
I don't show face and neither do I pressure for face pics. Looking for good humor, curvy tits and lots of naughty texting. I'm very new to this so you'll have to maybe teach me the ways of the online world.
I am not really into roleplays, but we can talk about it. I'm not in an unhappy marriage to make you clear. And yes, she doesnt know that I am here. It's just something that I am trying because I just feel kind of lonely at times. I may have a lot of questions. I may not be the ideal one. BUT I'm a confident person, knows good english. Not a creep.
Not looking for hookups. Something virtual and friendly which can later get naughty. I dont like bdsm or hateful stuff. I'm more of a romantic.
And yes, I'm a dominant kind of a person and I love being pleased. Surprise me with yourself ladies ;)
Hit me up if you are into it and we can get talking. See you ladies.
Hey all,
We have all done this before, let’s try again! Always have to get back on that horse!
41 and married here with kids. I’m in pretty decent shape with my dad bod! Not looking to change anyone’s situation…just some fun here and there! Open to an online thing or something more down the line.
I’m located in the Pacific Northwest…hoping you’re on the west coast. Just makes it easier without the time difference!
I’m into my career, travel, working on my own advanced education, sports, coaching kids, video games, tv shows and good movies, and I love Stephen King. I also travel to Vegas from time to time for vacation, so I’d be willing to meet someone in that area as well!
Willing to share pics, but hoping to establish a connection first, and see where it goes from there. Humor is a must!!! Reach out if you’d like to chat!
Hi there,
Canadian with a Latino background, searching for a discreet partner-in-crime for an ongoing connection. Not in a rush, I'd love to start as friends, take things slow, and see how things go from there.
My stats: professional, muscular (hitting the gym 5 days a week), 6’2, 190 lbs. I’m based in York Region (bonus points if you’re local, as it would make things easier), but I’m happy to travel as well.
What I'm looking for: No specific preferences for race, height, etc, as long as you're under 40. However, you must be married as well, otherwise this won't work. I do not want to change my situation nor yours.
If this resonates with you, feel free to drop me a message :)
Easygoing and laid-back guy. I’m 27, 6’2”, athletic build, and based in Ohio. Life’s too short to go through the motions — I’m here looking for someone who wants a little more.
I’m all about real connection, good conversation, shared laughs, and those small moments that stick with you. Whether it’s talking late into the night, sneaking off for spontaneous plans, or just being that escape from the everyday — I’m down for it.
Not looking to complicate things — just hoping to meet someone who gets it. If you value chemistry, enjoy playful energy, and want something that stays between us, let’s talk.
Discreet. Respectful. No pressure — just see where it goes.
29 m4f looking for a fwb situation I guess! been married 4 years now. have cheated before but never had an ongoing affair mostly drinking nights with friends and ONS hoping for something a little more than that! I have free time during the week lunch hours and occasionally we both travel separately so can have some opening. I’m. Northern Colorado but travel to Denver often! vids first then we can plan to meet let’s chat and see how we feel! have a good day
White middle aged man, athletic and stay in good shape, clean cut, with a positive and respectful personality. I’m interested in a connection with a younger woman.
Fetishes or kinks are welcome but not required of course. I’m not looking to change my situation or yours, but a discrete, ongoing relationship or fwb situation would be nice.
DM me to know more. Will send pic right away if you will too.
Let me briefly start by stating something bold;
I'm one of the good ones, tied down to a deteriorating relationship.
I'm genuinely nice, handsome, intelligent, athletic, empathetic, optimistic, understanding, and devoted to finding + enjoying the positive things in life that make me happy.
I'm tired of pretending that being stuck in my position is completely fine and I'm working to take baby steps to improve the situation. Since you're here as well, I would expect that you know what I mean.
I don't intend to waste anyone's time, nor do I want to try and change your situation. I'm looking for one person only and I have patience and hope that you're out there.
With that said, physical attraction is a characteristic of what I'm looking for in someone so please be open to revealing yourself early on (as will I).
If you …
and if you identify as * GenX * Xennial * Millennial
You had a favorite TV show such as: * Family Ties * Growing Pains * Full House * Family Matters * Saved by the Bell * ALF * Married with Children
… then you had the greatest childhood!
If any of this resonated with you … you are who I want to connect with! I want to wax nostalgia about the greatest childhood.
I’m a 48 year old married white collar male with kids. I live outside of Chicago and work in the Loop. I enjoy traveling, both to new and old locations. I’m looking for someone that is white collar as well and is open to a throwback to the carefree 80s and 90s.
I’m flirty and seek banter through my day and evening. My OPSEC is tight and would expect yours to be as well.
Perhaps we can trade messages like we did in grade school … in the hallway between passing periods.
If you made it this far, what was your favorite Trapper Keeper in the fourth grade and why was it a Lisa Frank?
Active married man seeking a date with a vibrant woman around my age, or a little younger. I’m into art, creativity, music, gardening and landscaping, biking, running, a wide variety of food and cooking, and much more that I can’t think of at the moment.
I’m white, have blue eyes, a full head of salt & pepper hair, 5’10”, mid 180s, athletic build, no facial hair, no tattoos or piercings but don’t mind if you do. I have a bright and friendly personality, though I can be a bit reserved at times. I really enjoy asking questions to get to know people better.
I’m attracted to a warm smile, engaging eye contact, curiosity, kindness, confidence, a healthy lifestyle, and people of all races.
I’d love to chat and see how we get along.
Married man, 33, born and raised in LA, no kids, and seeking that which has been missing in the marriage for some time now.
Affection, connection, desire. Looking for a woman in a similar situation. I don’t mind if you’re single as long as you can be discreet.
I’m not looking for public dates, as much as I would love that I simply cannot take that kind of risk. Strictly looking for daily chatting and meeting up for steamy fun when time permits us.
I do workout just about everyday, I’m very clean/hygienic, I’m Latino, very light skin, hazel eyes, I get confused for Caucasian quite a lot, slim/thick body, working towards having a more athletic build.
I’m not looking for multiple partners or random hookups. Life would be easier if that’s all it was. But I’m simply not built that way.
If you made it this far I hope I still have your attention, I know you ladies get bombarded when posting on here to the point it can be off putting to even try to post anymore. So here I am, shoot your shot. Tell me a little about yourself and let’s take it from there :)
Looking to meet someone local or online to provide some distraction and fulfillment of needs. A bit about me, Im into cooking, gaming, normal millennial internet nonsense I suppose. Trying to take better care of myself healthwise, I exercise and such. Im looking for someone to have regular conversations with. I guess you could say a friends with benefits situation. Best case scenario would obv be someone local to me but sometimes you cant always control these kinds of things so if we are able to be social frequently and the vibe is good Im not opposed to an online-only friend. If youre looking, take a flyer and chat, lets see where things go!
Must be great in bed, great in the kitchen, and great in the living room. 😜😊
We all know why we are here. Definitely looking for great chemistry in the bedroom, but a great personality and a willingness to be friends is part of the package.
Happy Hunting.
It's been a rough go lately and I don't normally do this, but I'd like to find someone to have fun with and help me forget about all that's happening in life. Anyone up to just escape for a bit? Married white male, attractive and in shape. Not looking to change my situation.
About Me:
About You:
Looking to chat first and see if we vibe. Hope to hear from you!
I'm a 51 year old married man and the title is so appropriate - "So close, yet so far" - this aptly describes my journey with posting on this site for my special person. I have encountered engaging conversations that fizzle out quickly, as well as individuals who lack the fundamental communication skills or emotional depth for this unique kind of relationship. However, I remain optimistic as a few interactions have shown potential in finding my ideal partner.
I'm searching for a woman who embodies beauty, intelligence, wit, charm, and kindness. And on that note, I don't want to waste your time or mine so I will be asking for a description and photo sooner than later since mutual attraction is an important component of any relationship.
I'm eager to connect with a woman who appreciates romance and meaningful conversations, as I have the time and passion to invest in a relationship. Let's explore the potential of creating a special bond together! My ideal partner would possess qualities of intelligence, kindness, authenticity, and empathy.
Also, I do understand the demands of everyday life but am looking for someone who can prioritize our connection and is willing to make the time and put in the effort for our journey. However, if your communication style involves infrequent or low-effort messages, kindly refrain from contacting me. I deplore just asking questions as though it was an interview. Be engaging and willing to share more than a cryptic response every now and again.
If you believe you can positively impact my life, please send me a chat request. I request that you skip the usual greetings and instead captivate me with your thoughts and aspirations - share what drew you to my message. I look forward to hearing from someone who can genuinely engage and hold my attention.
Hi- Wow it’s been an annoying ride! I’m sure many of us ladies on here are annoyed with all of these men saying they can give time, energy and sexual attention to us! And actually want to meet! So if you’ll read this entire thing before applying that would be great. Things I’m looking for from you- -attentive (understanding we both have families though) -observant -thoughtful -wants to connect on an emotional AND sexual level -doesn’t want to change anyone’s situation -nice eyes and smile and some what physically fit -ACTUALLY wants and CAN meet! It’s easier if you come to me. Doesn’t have to be often but I’d like to meet you! -age 28-40 please do not message me if you’re outside of this range -trustworthy & not crazy -dominant but sweet and caring -sends voice memos, videos and pics often
If these things fit you please send a message telling me about yourself!
A bit about me- I give what I get- I match energy. I want to chat throughout the day and be excited to see your message, send voice memos and videos! I send a lot of pics and things about my day. I’m a 30yr old mom of two littles, married (obviously) and not looking to change that. I am curvy in the best ways. I have really pretty eyes and a nice smile, I’ve been told I’m rare for Reddit. I like to go to the gym, read, and be on the lake in the summer. Outside is preferred over inside, I like to travel and explore new places/things!
Hoping to find the one!
Let’s skip the small talk.
I’m 36, well-traveled, mixed race, grounded, and living a life I’ve built on my own terms. But even with all of that, there’s something I’ve been missing, something a little more electric. I’m not looking for anything overly serious right now, but I am looking for depth: connection, laughter, chemistry, and maybe a bit of mischief on the side.
I tend to lean dominant, especially when the vibe’s right. If you’re more on the submissive side or like to switch it up, we’ll probably click. I’m not just here for sex, that's easy to find, I want something casual but meaningful. The kind of bond where we can be ourselves, remove the mask, talk about anything, and enjoy exploring each other’s minds and bodies with curiosity and respect.
You: confident, feminine, open-minded. You like to think deep, laugh hard, and say what’s really on your mind. Maybe you’ve got a life that looks pretty good from the outside, but inside, you’re itching for something different, something exciting, something just for you. And if you're attached and looking to step out of your routine? I won’t judge. I’m here to step out of the life's routine, not drama.
Me: fit, emotionally intelligent, highly educated, a little witty, a little wicked. I love good conversation, spicy tension, and shared adventures, whether that’s a great drink, a wild idea, or a private moment that lingers in your thoughts for days. I read a lot, love a good debate, and never take myself too seriously.
I’m not chasing a fairy tale. Just a real, no-pressure connection with someone who gets it. No games. No expectations. Just good energy, fun chemistry, and the space to be real with each other.
If that sounds like something you're into, message me with something honest or unexpected. Bonus points if you’ve got a hot take, a wild story, or a way you like to unwind and relax.
Let’s make life a little less routine and a lot more fun.