r/analonlylifestyle
Hi everyone,
The discussion post on the new rules has been around for a few weeks, and it seems like there was only one which the community felt needed reworking which you can read below (Rule 9.).
We'll be taking a two-strikes approach to moderation. If you breach the rules, you'll be warned, if it happens again regarding the same rule, you'll be banned.
We think this is going to make moderation a much more straight forward operation with less room for grey areas as far as interpreting them goes.
Here are the new rules:
One sentence or highly repetitive posts add nothing to the discourse.
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These new rules are effective immediately. Happy posting!
(Not sure if it’s okay to ask for ideas on this in this community, but I need some ideas and inspiration so I’m gonna give it a try!) Hi, [F18] last night I posted a poll. I’m starting a buttplug challenge. Y’all voted for 60 days (that’s gonna be hell :’) ) but I’m gonna do it anyways. Give me more tasks with it, that can be a longer period of time wearing the plug (than the original 60 days), no clit or cunt pleasure allowed the full period wearing the plug. So denial for a long time. Maybe forced enemas? (I find it humiliating) I have to wear it 24/7 only removing for cleaning and shitting. If some of you have more humiliating “rules” let me know! Any suggestions or tips are welcome! :)
My ex described anal orgasms as very different to vaginal, and I wonder how common this is
She described her anal orgasms as a whole body experience, a heat that started in her chest and which would build and build and spread out, to the point of it almost being too much to handle and making her feel like she was going to explode into a thousand pieces or wanted to be "destroyed"
Vaginal orgasms she described as calmer, with a distinct peak and then an enjoyable, pleasant feeling of tension release after
With anal, the tension never fully released because after each orgasm, she wanted to fuck more, and the longer it went on she would fuck more aggressively. She would stop only if told to (poor me) or from exhaustion
It really was a crazy transformation and not one I've heard others experience very often when reading their descriptions
My wife loves anal. We do it a few times a week every week. Unfortunately, she doesn't especially love accidentally shitting herself over the next 12 hours. No pain or discomfort, just loss of sphincter control combined with having a bunch of lube and cum inside her. Really messes with plans for the next day.
Any ladies out there who had this issue and solved it? Got any tricks?
I would think kegels could help, but shes already active and getting plenty of exercise/core work and always tightens up by the next day and I don't want to convince her to try something if it's not going to make a difference anyways.
26ftm for context, I do pretty much exclusively anal when there's cock involved (though it seems like more and more gay men are more interested in trying out the "bonus hole"- but that just isn't nearly as fun to me)
I know that you're supposed to use toys to stretch before taking a big cock for example, but I just can never get in the right headspace playing with toys for it to be enjoyable. Taking a cock is what my ass feels like it was made for, but taking a dildo? Where's the fun in that?
Just curious if anyone here feels similarly.
Hey there as the total says I need help choosing a new butt plug. My bf really loves the idea of me wearing a butt plug whenever we go out but the bottom part (thr part outside of be) always hurts so bad from pinching me.
Thanks in advance ☺️
My wife and I enjoy anal sex quite extensively and I have expressed interest in having her try going ass to mouth. She is somewhat apprehensive about this do to being concerned about the taste and the risk involved. I eat her ass almost every time have any play session because we both enjoy that and she has kissed me after so how would I help her discover that tlthis could be a normal part of anal play going forward? She has tasted my fingers that were in her ass but she didn't realize that at the time as I fingered her in her ass with one and her pussy with the other.
Me 39(M) and my girlfriend 35 (F)are into AO. All of a sudden, she has gotten interested in my ass and now she wanted to lick my ass and give me tongue fuck. Although I am licking her ass everytime when we have sex and give her a deep tongue fuck and she craves for it. We both love this part. But I really don’t know how I will respond when she will do that to me. Any suggestions? Guys /girls. Please suggest how should I tackle this proposal? Sometimes I get aroused by thinking that how will she lick my ass.
What prep do you do to ensure you won’t get sick?
My ex (together 4 years - met when was 37, she was 30) was a bit of a unicorn in that she would orgasm hardest from anal and absolutely loved it from day 1. Her enthusiasm was a huge part of the draw for me. She showed me the "correct" way to do it, to maximise comfort and pleasure for her and got schooled very well.
This unlocked a kink in me that find difficult to get satisfied in new relationships. Anal has been a thing in some of those relationships, but the enthusiasm and the orgasms don't go hand in hand in many of them, which ultimately leads to feelings of dissatisfaction Anyone else had this experience after a long term AOL or other interesting changes in your desires as a result and how did you manage it?
It doesn't necessarily need to be an relationship, like variety, but it's about the enjoyment and orgasms from it. I don't thinkl could have a long term relationship without it
I'm a man 32 years old and i have nerve tried to fuck girl in her asshole but nowadays i feel i want to try it I feel like i want to cum inside, i have many doubts, is it worth it?
I have a Large Meo 24/7 plug that I want to try to wear for longer and longer periods to alter my hole but want to get some advice from people that have used this line of toys before if they really do change your hole long-term.
Appreciate any insight!
If you’re naughty and you know it On your knees If you’re naughty and you know it Spread your cheeks If you’re naughty and you know it And your backside’s getting blown out If you’re naughty and you know it Say, “Cum in me.”
I am curious if women frequently get impressed by the size of a new partners penis and end up agreeing to sexual acts they previously labeled as off the table. I dated a girl who told me her biggest dick story. I guess she ended up sleeping with her boyfriend’s roommate who had a freakishly large dick bigger than she had ever seen. Despite being an anal virgin She said when he started playing with her asshole during foreplay she decided this big cock was worthy of her A V card. She only ever took this guy in her ass or mouth; never her vagina. We dated a year and she never showed interest in anal with me. Girls if you find out a guy is well endowed do you think you spend longer on the blow jobs?
I've been in a rut, being unemployed for so long really messed up my mental health and self worth I wasn't really feeling sexy at all. I kept apologizing to my husband and he's reassured me it's okay. The last bunch of months I've not been able to climax from PIV and didn't even want to think about anal. BUT!!! I'm finally on a payroll and this week I've been feeling so much better, mentally and physically. So last night I word vomited a bunch of things I've been reading here and online (some of you have shared som very hot stories and I couldn't stop thinking about them) like how I'm interested in maid play, have him filling me then plugging me and immediately we go to the gym, and just getting back into anal in general. He shared he hasn't been feeling super "randy" lately even though he isn't experiencing any stress, usually his drive plummets when he has work or family stress. The talk was nice. We took a shower then we headed to bed to sleep....well so we thought. He started fingering my asshole, completely passing over my pussy, when we started kissing. We talked dirty, like really dirty, and it turned me on so much. He slipped another finger in and then a third. "I think you need your ass filled" and I begged him to fuck me. He's very dominant in the bedroom, which I love because I tend to run things in our day to day life, so he got on top, grabbed the wedge to prop me up, lubed up some more and slid right in. It felt amazing, my pussy was soaked and my juices were getting all over his stomach, I haven't been that drenched in a year or so. I was sooooo close to having an anal orgasm, after reading some stories here I'm now dying to have one, but he couldn't stop and filled me. The sex wasn't rough, it was quite romantic and loving idk how else to describe it. He stayed inside, grabbed my Hitachi and made me cum from that. I slept with his cum in my ass and could feel it leaking out of me omg I never thought that's something I would say. Still, it felt amazing and I think it's reinvigorated something because we made love again this morning (sorry, no booty this am). Idk why I'm sharing this but I just had to tell someone.
Does anyone else fantasize about having your vagina be called "useless" and "unsatisfying" while having anal be favored over it? Is it weird to sometimes be turned off by recreational vaginal sex and would prefer to mostly have anal sex, only having vaginal intercourse for reproductive purposes?
At times, I fantasize about watching a couple have sex in front of me (Cuckquening) while the couple keeps flinging insults about not letting me join because my vagina is “boring and gross”.
To be honest, I'd love to get paid just to have my pussy degraded and my anus praised!
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29F, edging for two weeks without cumming and at this point im thinking of going on an analonly month a d ugh i keep gooning to anal gifs and vids and tbey are so hot and i used to not like it at all but now it always gets me so drippy >_< would a month be a good idea?
Background info: had bad experiences at first w my ex, since then i read up about anal, got toys, luuube, all the stuff. And now i can slowly but surely work my way up to my 7inch dildo going full in, no pain or discomfort and fees so good. I spent days at work being plugged all day only to come home and ride my dildo. Feeeels so nice. >_<
My girlfriend and I have been dating for close to three years now. I let her know early on that anal was my biggest kink and pretty important to me, but she said that penetration was a complete no go. I agreed to that and decided not to push her on it. After she dwelled on my request for a while, she asked me one night to rub on her butthole during sex. She really enjoyed it a lot, and it’s something I would include frequently. It gets her wetter than any other sex act we’ve tried. She’s been able to enjoy shallow penetration and external stimuli. In her effort to please me, we tried PIA one day. I thought that since it was her idea and I hadn’t been bringing it up or pressuring her, she must’ve been really on board! Well, she wasn’t. It didn’t go well. I know the best practices for preparing for anal, gradual size changes over time. I explained it all to her and she insisted she was ready. She did not practice or feel excited, in truth she was very terrified. But she said to put it in there so I did.. I learned later that the discussion i referenced at the beginning of this story where I had brought anal up in the first place had been kind of gnawing at her, and she felt like she wasn’t good enough for me. And this was over a period of over a year she had been worried like this.
That leads me to today. I don’t want to pressure her in any way, but she now holds an opinion that anal penetration is always extremely painful, and almost evil of me to have a fetish for. She really does enjoy shallow butt play a ton, but she just does not believe that my penis in her butt could feel good in any reality. I know anal is not for some people, but I think that’s just untrue for her. She told me she really wishes that PIA felt as pleasurable as PIV for her because she does want to try it and indulge me, but now she’s feeling scared and like it would be an impossible, traumatic task. I told her that PIV is perfectly fine and I don’t want her to feel like she’s not living up to sexual expectations... I’d like to talk to her but again, I don’t want to pressure her and it’s kind of a sensitive topic still even though it’s been a year since. After her experience I have tried butt stuff myself and worked my way up to a full size. And it felt pretty good for me, I enjoyed it. She doesn’t believe that it was very good for me and I’m just trying to get her to budge, but I just kind of wanted to understand the whole process myself. I’m just unsure what to do outside of that. is there anything I can do from here, or is it just game over? What can I say/do to help her with this?
I lost my anal virginity four years ago. Since then, I’ve had a fair bit of sex, but never vaginal — it just doesn’t feel anywhere near as good. I’ve played with my pussy before, but it’s like it doesn’t even register in my mind as a sexual body part, to me vaginal stimulation is no different from drumming my fingers or bouncing my leg.
Anal sex on the other hand feels amazing, it’s honestly addicting. I never really looked into communities around this but I’ve been really interested in talking about it lately, so I’m super glad I stumbled across this place!! Feel free to reach out and talk if you have any questions, I’d be happy to chat <333
This also applies to anyone struggling with motivation, and anal masturbation
Anal requires a tremendous amount of prep, and the amount of work it requires is the biggest killer of motivation. Therefore any amount of help you can provide for your sub will help their motivation, and I'll describe all the ways how you can help.
Supplements and Diet. This makes the difference between cleaning for minutes vs hours. Help by cooking high fiber dishes, and reminding your partner to take their supplements. Supplements can also get expensive, so you can make your own. Taking the supplements themselves can also be a hassle, so you can incorporate the powder into dishes like bread, pasta, crackers, brownies, etc. Also replace rice with brown rice. Remind them to stay hydrated prior to playing. Reduces the risk of injury, and stops your body from absorbing the moisture from lube "drying" it out.
Cleaning and douching. Help your partner douche, or whatever they need to clean. Clean the equipment, clear the bathroom, running the warm water, etc. Offer to clean when any mishaps happen.
Setting the scene. Prior to playing, clean the toys if they aren't clean, lay out towels/mats, clear out the area itself, and lay out the toys. Prepare the lube as well, either mix it or warm it up. Also warm the toys as well, as it makes them much more comfortable to use. You can wrap them in an electric blanket prior.
Cleaning up afterwards. Clean all the toys, throw the towels in the wash, put the lube away, and clean whatever else got dirty.
Misc tips.
When mishaps happen, clean it up as quickly as possible. Bottoms can feel guilty and gross when it happens (it's not their fault), and it can potentially kill the mood. Be prepared to fix them quickly, to preserve the mood, and prevent any guilt the bottom might feel about it.
Do any outstanding chores prior to play. Intense play can leave you absolutely exhausted, so having any errands or chores you need to do afterwards can absolutely kill to mood. Make sure the only thing they need to worry about is having a good time.
I’m a certified anal addict, it really is intoxicating. I love the way it makes my pussy feel. I love the empty ache inside my cunt while my ass is stretched and filled. I love how my pussy starts leaking like a faucet while my ass is being plowed. I love how my entire body gets sensitive as soon as I put my plug in. I love how needy it makes me, that I always want more and more when it’s in my ass. I’ve gooned for hours anal only on many occasions. I’ve had several first hook ups that were anal only or we ended up doing anal. Can anyone else relate to what I’m trying to say here? I know I’m like horny rambling but I’m curious what others think.
Edit: Thanks for your answers. They were really helpful. If someone still has some more information or tips that he wants to share then please write them down. I‘m happy with every piece of information that I can get.
So the story is the following. The girl that I date at the moment has vaginismus. But the thing is that also her anus is tense all the time like the vagina, so penetrative sex through PIV or PIA both is not possible at the moment. Background is that she got abused as a young teenager but she doesn‘t know if the tense muscles in this area are from a trauma or if it already was there before she got abused.
So there are a few questions that I thought about in the last few days.
I really like her and want to help her with this. She also wants to be able to have penetrative sex so I thought about asking this sub for help. Also she is really hot and we match very well so I definitely want to improve our sexlife as good as possible. I love when she is enjoying it and want to give her as much good experiences as possible. I know there is a way to help her by stretching her over a veeeeerrrrrryyyyy looooonnnnngggg time but I always think if there isn‘t another possible way or at least a way to help her reach the goal easier.
Thanks for your advice in advance.
I never really had a place to talk about the subject, so intimately and I appreciate everyone on here. I’ve learned a lot from you guys and I really hope I can use what I have learned on someone in the future. I’m hoping my cold streak comes to an end soon.
I am searching for idea of task to do while bikepacking for nearly a month. I will include some as i want to create a fap roulette tasks for cyclist and backpacker or any touristes doing some look a like activities
Some task would include sport task, as hiking or cycling principaly, but Also swimming, if beach or lake available
It will include nearly only outdoor or public task, as it made for travelers but i dont want to include exhibitionnism, only fun tasks that can appear risky. Even for resting i would include some hostel dormitory activities, where room and showers are shared. also private room hotel. Camping in campsite or in total nature as savage camping
Task can take place in a city so include visiting touristic things, as church, museum, garden, famous places or shop But also on more rural place as natural parc, countryside, village, beach
I can not includes too much toy but maybe the simpliest stuff, vibrator, butt plug, dildo, but i can includes improvisés toy as vegetables, lipstick, teethbrush or hairbrush or other thing where i may need your imagination
An interesting thing could be to drop "traces" on the travel as a pist game, like hiding printed pic, notes, or internet link for people find it by accident or following traveler
What did you think about this did you got some idea, And you find the idea interesting you can follow i will upload about this as i'm actually bikepacking and will try some by myself