r/eroticmassage

Welcome to Erotic Massage!

We're getting tired of blocking so many posts that break our rules, so we think it's time to restate those rules and put them in a more visible location. (See below.)

But first we want to address the biggest problem we are seeing: a lack of sufficient information in the titles of R4R posts. A consistent format makes it much easier for people to scan this sub and spot the posts that fit their needs. This includes travelers who are less familiar with your area, but who plan to be near you soon.

To help people find your post and decide whether to read it and/or contact you, you will need to provide this information, in this order, IN THE TITLE OF YOUR POST:

• Your age (can be approximate, like "50s" or "40ish")
• "[" + your sex + "4" + the sex of person you are looking for + "]"
• "#" + Location [City or county + country or U.S. state] + ":"
• State clearly whether you are looking for a teacher, seeking a massage, offering a massage, or looking for an exchange.
• Other relevant info, if any, such as a particular kind of massage and whether or not you can host.

For "sex," use the following:

• M = Male, F = Female, A = Any (any sex, you don't care)
• MF, FM, FF, MM, FA, MA = a couple
• NBM = non-binary AMAB, NBF = non-binary AFAB (recommended, not required)
• TM = f2m (trans male), TF = m2f (trans female) <= recommended for providers, required for non-providers

Put it all in the title in the specified order. Like this:

50s [F4A] #Boston England: Seeking skilled provider for tantric massage at my place

New option: If you are offering a massage, you can substitute ">" for the 4. (As in "I give a massage TO you.") If you are seeking a massage, you can substitute "<" for the 4. (As in "I want a massage FROM you.") And if you want an exchange, you can substitute "<>" for the 4. So the above example would be:

50s [F<A] #Boston England: Seeking skilled provider for erotic massage at my place

If you make a post for someone else, write the first part of the title as if it is being written by the person who wants to actually give or receive the massage, even if that's your partner or a friend and you're asking on their behalf. So if you want to find a nuru massage for your 44 year old wife, you might say:

44 [F<M] #Dallas GA: Seeking Nuru massage for my wife at your place

Your own gender and age don't enter into it if you are not giving or receiving a massage.

If you are trans and seeking a massage: We strongly recommend indicating "pre-op" or "post-op" to indicate whether you have had bottom surgery. Unlike a business or social setting, massage involves intimate contact, and experience has shown that it's important for participants to be open about their status to avoid misunderstandings.

For locations: Indicate a reasonable travel zone and avoid cryptic abbreviations and local nicknames. If you say "Canada" or "Texas" (without a city or county) or "DMV" or "SFV" or "bay area" or use airport codes or postal codes in place of city/county names, your post will be blocked.

Many city, town, and county names are duplicated in other areas. There are EIGHT Orange Counties in the US alone, more than 40 places in the U.S. named Springfield, and more than 1,700 places in the world named San Jose! Even famous cities often share names with others (like Dallas Scotland, Paris TX, and London GA), so always include the country or the U.S. state.

In some other large countries, city and town names may also not be unique. In those cases, please include the name or designator of the district/state/territory/province as well as the country. For example, "Clinton BC Canada" or "Clinton Ontario Canada."

Acceptable nicknames & abbreviations:

• In the US: all standard 2-letter state abbreviations, plus "DC", "NYC NY", and "OKC OK."
• City states, very small countries, and 1-city and 1-island countries: Monaco, San Marino, Singapore, Gibraltar, Barbados, etc. If everyone in your country is within a reasonable transit time, you don't need to break it down any further, especially if the city and country have the same name.
• "KL Malaysia", "BA Argentina", "Rio Brazil", "Mexico City", and other unique capitals or mega-cities that are well-known internationally by their nicknames & abbreviations. (But when in doubt, spell it out!)

• "London UK" and "London GB" are acceptable, but others in the UK should specify England, Wales, Scotland, or N.Ireland instead.

• LF = looking for

• FB = full body

• SM = sensual massage

• EM = Erotic massage

• incall = recipient travels to the massage provider's preferred location

• outcall = massage provider travels to recipient's preferred location

So "LF FBEM incall only" would mean "looking for a full body erotic massage at your place"

Examples of acceptable posts:

• 37 [M4F] #Boston, England: LF erotic massage

• 37 [M<F] #Boston, England: LF erotic massage

• 26 [F4F] #Paris, France: want to exchange yoni massages, can host

• 26 [F<>F] #Paris, France: want to exchange yoni massages, can host

• 40s [F4A] #Paris TX: offering nuru, tantric, and FB massages; my studio only

• 40s [F>A] #Paris TX: offering nuru, tantric, and FB massages; my studio only

• 29&31 [FM4FM/A] #Paris TN area: Want to exchange 4-hand or 6-hand erotic massages, can host or travel

• 29&31 [FM<>FM/A] #Paris TN area: Want to exchange 4-hand or 6-hand erotic massages, can host or travel

RULES

This is a place where you can search for or offer erotic massages and share reviews of massages you have received, but please observe our rules.

In particular:

1. Be civil at all times, regardless of what you may think is provocation. If someone is nasty to you, report it. DO NOT FLAME THEM.

2. Provide necessary information in the required format. The TITLE of each R4R post must include (in order) your age and sex/gender, the sex of the person you are looking for, a reasonably specific location, and a description of what you are offering and/or seeking. Age can be approximate. Avoid cryptic abbreviations and local nicknames, and specify the state or country. (See above for details.)

3. No misrepresentation. Do not misrepresent yourself in any way. If you feel the need to fudge your age, use a range (30s, 50ish). Otherwise, stick to solid facts and don't make promises you aren't going to keep. Note: Hyperbole ("World's best erotic masseur!!!") counts as misrepresentation. If in doubt, tone it down.

4. No personally identifying info. Do not post email addresses, phone numbers, pictures of your face, or any other personally identifying information for yourself or anyone else.

5. Don't be creepy. If you are offering a massage, present yourself as a trustworthy provider of an intimate service. Do not post nudes or pornographic selfies or creepy text, or imply in any way that you expect reciprocation. (Asking for an exchange of massages is okay.)

6. Keep it legal. Do not offer or ask for money for explicit sexual services. Do not refer to "happy endings" or use similar terms in any post or comment. Do not offer or ask for anything illegal in your location.

7. Stay on-topic. This sub is about massage. Stick to the subject. Do not use this sub to promote products, websites, organizations, or causes.

8. No porn with no instructional value. Do not post stories, images, or links to text or videos that have no instructional value related to sensual or erotic massage. If you provide a link to explicit material, you must say why you think it is valuable and what others can learn from it.

If you violate these rules, your post will be blocked and you may be banned from the sub. The mods also reserve the right to block posts or ban anyone for conduct that in the mods' judgment is detrimental to the purpose of this sub.

Please hit the report button and let us know if someone violates these rules or if you have reason to believe that someone is using stolen images or is using posts or comments here to facilitate a scam.

THIS IS PART ONE. PLEASE READ PART TWO, OUR SUPPLEMENTAL FORMATTING GUIDE, AS WELL!

We're still seeing a lot of posts that are being rejected because of format problems or rule violations, so we would like to clarify some points and emphasize ways to avoid the most common errors.

1: LOCATION, LOCATION, LOCATION

If you are in the U.S., you MUST include the state. (The "U.S." is optional.) We don't care how unique or special you think your city is, if you don't include those two letters, your post will be blocked. If you argue about it, you will be banned.

Exceptions: "DC" is a special case. It's both the city and the "state." "NYC" is also allowed without the NY because it is so well-known and unlikely to be confusing, and it includes the state name. And "Oklahoma City" is also allowed without the "OK" at the end, as long as it is spelled out. But "Kansas City" must be followed by either KS or MO.

You can use the nearest city, or a county, or a clear and reasonably compact geographic area (like "NE New Jersey"), but if you say "West Texas," expect your post to be blocked. That covers way too much territory and leaves readers with no clue to where you really are.

Also, our perennial reminder: DO NOT ABBREVIATE city or county names or use local nicknames. Just spell it out. If you give a location like "Philly," "DFW," "Bay Area," "LAX," or "Soho," your post will be blocked. ("DC" and "NYC" are the only exceptions.)

If you are from another large country with multiple subdivisions, you MUST include the subdivision (province, territory, state, district, department, etc.) as well as your country.

If you are not from the U.S., you MUST include the name of your country unless your city is synonymous with the country (like Singapore or Monaco).

2: NEW FORMAT OPTION!!!

In the interest of making that easier for people to scan the sub and find what they're looking for, we're providing a new format option. From now on, instead of the "4," you can use the "<" symbol to mean "seeking from" and the ">" symbol to mean "providing to." Use both ("<>") if you are looking for an exchange.

Like this:

[M<F] means "I'm a man seeking a massage FROM a woman."

[M>F] means "I'm a man offering to give a massage TO a woman."

[M<>F] means "I'm a man seeking to exchange massages WITH a woman."

...and so on, for all the other gender combinations.

You can use these new format options or continue to use the "4" in the middle, but you still must remember to specify whether you are seeking or offering a massage!

One of the most common reasons we reject posts is that they do not specify whether the poster is seeking a massage or offering one (or both). Using the arrows does not mean that you can make a very short post with nothing after the location ("33 [F>A] #Someplace Somewhere"). You still need to describe what you want or are offering. Many first-time visitors won't understand what the arrows mean, and you'll get more of a response if you include at least a little bit of text about what you are seeking or giving.

3: WHAT IF I'M MAKING A POST TO GET A MASSAGE FOR SOMEONE ELSE?

Write the title as if you were that person, and then explain at the end or in the text block. If you're looking for a man to give a massage to your 44yr old wife, you would say,

44 [F<M] #Someplace Somewhere: Looking for a massage for my wife.

The reason is that if the massage is only for her and you write "MF<M" at the front, most straight men will stop reading at that point and never see your explanation of what you actually want.

4: WHAT IF I'M LOOKING FOR SEVERAL ALTERNATIVES?

We use the "/" to mean "or," so "F/MF" would mean 'a woman or a straight couple' and "F/FF/MF" would mean 'one or two women or a straight couple.' But please use "A" (for "any") instead of "M/F."

Also use "FA" for a couple with at least one woman, "MA" for a couple with at least one man, and "AA" to indicate a couple of any mix of genders. So "FM<>F/FA" would be one way to say 'a straight couple seeking to exchange massages with one or two women or a straight couple.'

If it gets any more complicated than that, please write a series of separate descriptions, or use text to describe what you're after.

5: "MASSEUSE" IS FEMININE; "MASSEUR" IS MASCULINE

Memory tip: "Masseuse" is like "actress" or "waitress," with an "s" sound at the end. "Masseur" is like "actor" or "waiter," with an "r" sound at the end.

If you use either word, please don't confuse them. If you say...

"62 [M<F] #City State: Seeking skilled masseur"

... we will block it because of the contradictory genders. Ditto if you say you're looking for a "male masseuse" or a "female masseur." There's no such thing.

6: NO PORN OR EROTICA

This includes steamy "reviews." If you GET a massage and want to leave a review, leave out anything of questionable legality and keep your review as factual and straightforward as possible. But if you GIVE massages, resist the temptation to leave steamy "reviews" of your own sessions.

7: DO NOT MENTION "HAPPY ENDINGS" OR ANY EXPLICIT SEXUAL SERVICES AND DO NOT OFFER OR ASK FOR PAYMENT WHILE ON THIS SUB

That includes the comments. We have to comply with U.S. rules. Don't make it hard on us or risk getting this sub shut down.

8: DO NOT SAY ANYTHING THAT MAKES A MASSAGE SEEM CONDITIONAL ON GIVING OR RECEIVING SEX

This is particularly important for men offering massages to women. The #1 reason why women do not ask for or accept massages from men is that they do not feel safe. In part this is because porn almost invariably shows the massage recipient giving an HJ or BJ or being fucked by the massage giver. Since they think there is going to be unwanted pressure to reciprocate in this way, they pass up the opportunity to receive a massage.

DO NOT say anything in your post to encourage the belief that you expect sexual services as payment for giving a massage. Anyone who offers a massage and mentions his dick, refers to himself as a "bull," or otherwise implies that he hopes for or expects sexual reciprocation will be instabanned as a danger to others.

This does not mean you can't look for someone who wants to exchange massages with you. You can. But leave it at reciprocal massages. No other actions or services should be offered or expected.

9: THIS IS A MASSAGE SUB, NOT A KINK OR HOOKUP SUB

Seriously. If you are into kink, BDSM, swinging, hookups, sugar daddies, whatever, there are subs for that. This one is for people who want to offer, receive, or exchange sexy massages. PERIOD!

10: CHECK YOUR SPELLING AND PUNCTUATION AND DO NOT POST IN ALL CAPS

Readability is important for everyone reading this sub, including the people looking for your post, so try to make your title as clear and unambiguous as possible. Also, be sure you spell place names correctly, without abbreviation. If someone searches on "Las Vegas" and you typed "LasVegas" or "Los Vegas," or just "Vegas," the search will miss your post.

BTW, yes, I do get the irony in using all caps to tell you not to post in all caps! :) But what works for topic headers in a long post does not work for an entire screen full of post titles. And if we allow some people to do it, soon everyone will feel like they have to do it, and then there's no advantage to anyone and we all lose a lot of readability.

Professional male providing therapeutic to sensual massage. Txt for further questions

I have been providing sensual massages to women for the last 25 years. My technique touches the 7 most erotic spots in a women’s body from lips to breasts to Yoni. I use a special 3 finger technique on the yoni along with light rubs and sprinkle that with toys to give you delightful orgasms & deep squirts! I provide massage in a private room of a spa by appointments only. The room has mood setting ambiance, music, curtains, candles, linens & towels and is discreet. I have several 5* reviews from many clients & happy to share them on DM. The massage also involves gives you deep tissue massage on your sore spots to clear any knots. My session will make u feel recharged, refreshed & glowing. U should try atleast once - pls ping me on DM or reply to this post to schedule your next massage!

As you lay face down, my hands explore you. My fingers knead into you shoulders, firm and commanding, before trailing down your back with light touch. My hands lingering on every curve, teasing and awakening sensations that build with every stroke. The heat of my touch intensifies as i move lower, my fingertips brushing sensitive places with a blend of gentleness and need.

If this sounds good to you, message me. Due to my profession, I am really good with my hands.

30m white, 5’8, 160ish, clean, hygienic

Professional WM, very healthy, gentleman offering no cost massages. Have a table, linens and use quality oils unless you have a preference. Experienced in giving. Can host or come to you anywhere from Cocoa, Melbourne, Palm Bay, Sebastian to Port St. Lucie. Available most days and evenings. Not looking for anything in return. This is my hobby and I enjoy making a woman feel great. All boundaries respected. Can be strictly platonic or have a sensual twist. Schedule some time to relax....

Hi Ladies, As you see on title. Yoni massage is available. Take advantage of it. Please let me know If you need to get adjusted. Have a great day.

30M/31F in Manhattan searching for real high quality masseuse with possibility of erotic massage. You would start with wife, then husband, and eventually both of us. We can host and will compensate you well. Strictly professional massage unless the wife says more is ok. FEMALE ONLY.

Seeking nuru massage but cant seem to find any in this area. There has to be someone around here that can point me in the right direction.

Hi! As the title suggests I am a 35 year-old male seeking an erotic massage from a female 20-40 years of age. I would also like if we can do this at my home (I live alone) or your place if possible. If at my house, I can offer food, drinks, and a place to spend the night at. Looking forward to your services ladies. Dm me to discuss payment details.

I am offering Free erotic Massage for women in and around Atlanta. Willing to travel too.DM me or comment to this post for details.

During our session, you can expect:

*A peaceful and calming atmosphere * Soothing music and aromatherapy * Gentle, skilled touch tailored to your needs *Open communication to ensure your comfort and consent

To further enhance the experience, I'll guide you through a meditation session before the massage. This will help you:

*Quiet the mind and focus on the present moment *Release any emotional blockages or tension

The meditation session will be approximately 20-30 minutes, followed by a 90-minute erotic massage. You'll be fully clothed during the meditation session, and then you'll have the option to undress to your comfort level for the massage.

I offer this massage for women aged 21+, and all sessions will be conducted in a professional setting with clear boundaries established beforehand.

Don't miss out on this chance to pamper yourself, relax, rejuvenate, and connect with your inner self. Send me a message today!

I neither pay nor receive money for the massage or meditation

40 [M4F] #southflorida #FL attractive WM therapist hosting TODAY providing full body tantric massage sessions for females

Today hosting in upscale location! Well reviewed with over a decade of experience! Mobile or able to host. Clean cut DDF attractive 6'2 brown hair blue eyes professional therapist. Providing relaxing full body therapeutic tantric and sensual yoni sessions for females. Everything needed for an amazing blissful experience long fingers strong hands clean linens table oils and music. Come relax and experience bliss with a pure bliss massage session. Sessions are always about you and your needs. Let's talk and schedule a pure bliss session

I am well trained and experienced in providing erotic massage.

Your safety and comfort is the top priority. The massage will be in total a 90 mins session starting with relaxation with all clothes on. After that you choose the level of clothes with towel covered to birthday suit range. I will slowly progress toe to head and gradually based on your reaction make it intimate. I can offer oral for DDF and fully shaved. As an alternate if you are looking for a quick session or just oral (DDF) then mention in your medsage.

I am here for next 3 days

HMU if you have a query or interested

I'm a White guy looking to receive a sensual and erotic full body massage from a Black woman. I come to you, whatever your set up is, no outcall or mobile.

This offer is good as long as this post exists.

Feeling the weight of the world lately? You’re not alone. Between long workdays, deadlines, and nonstop responsibilities, your body deserves to experience real care, deep relief, and total relaxation.

I’m a professionally trained male massage therapist offering 90 and 120 minute mobile sessions for women in Las Vegas. My sessions are intuitive, therapeutic, and designed to help you reconnect with your body in a way that feels calm, safe, and deeply empowering.

What your experience may include: • Deep tissue to release muscle fatigue • Trigger point therapy to dissolve tension • Flowing Swedish strokes to calm your entire system • Acupressure to rebalance your energy and restore ease

Each session is fully tailored to you. There is no rush, no pressure, and no expectations. Just presence, comfort, and professional touch that respects your boundaries and honors your space.

Outcall only Available for women and select couples Discreet, respectful, and client centered at every step

When you book with me, you are in control. You set the tone. I provide a secure, private environment where you can feel supported, relaxed, and truly cared for.

If your body has been asking for release, comfort, or just a moment of peace, I invite you to message me. Let’s talk about how I can help you feel your best again.

Visiting Las Vegas for a couple of days.

Have you ever received a sensual full body massage?

Then you know how it goes. Your heart beating stronger as you get naked and ready anticipating a pair strong hands touching you.

The excitement, that first skin to skin contact and hypnotic rhythm, expert hands rubbing and massaging your sore muscles and every single inch in your body.

The teasing, those hands getting closer and closed to your already soaking wet pussy, but just grazing it, not quite touching it. The anticipation, what else will happen, how far will you and your masseuse go… what is the limit when you are naked, horny, wet and oily… when shame has been replaced by desire…

If you have experienced this, I want to make you experience it again. I am a 42 y/o male, latin, 5’10 tall, fit, and experienced

Check my profile for pics, videos and FAQs. I can also provide after-massage reactions.

To be clear: I do NOT massage men. Also, I do NOT charge or pay for this.

Offering sensual/tantric or full body erotic oil massage to women. If any woman interested to experience or receive a sensual tantric and yoni massage please contact for details, ask me questions, if you have, and schedule a session (by appointment only). This might be a different experience for you.

Visitors/travelers can also schedule a session either incall or in their hotel/Airbnb rooms.

Sessions are available for couples who have issues in their intimate love making relationship. Please dm me for details about couples massage. Privacy or discretion is maintained properly.

Short trial sessions for newbies and volunteer options are also available, please check with me for details.

Love your body, love yourself !

Sacramento, CA. – Ready to explore something new? I’m offering a complimentary massage designed for men who are curious about M2M experiences or discovering their bisexual side. As an experienced massage therapist, I specialize in stress relief, along with tantric, sensual, and erotic techniques that create a comfortable, judgment-free space for complete relaxation. Whether you're a college student, executive, professional, or blue-collar worker, this is your opportunity to escape daily stress and indulge in a customized, deeply satisfying experience. I’m a discreet, bisexual male therapist with a high libido, into JO, HJs, BJs, edging, frotting, FWBs, and viewing STR8 porn.

I have a strong preference for men with a muscular, bodybuilder physique, but more than anything, I’m drawn to good energy and a real connection. That said, I especially appreciate exhibitionists, well-endowed men, uncircumcised guys, and those with an impressive, well-shaped butt—I genuinely enjoy working on a solid, masculine build. FWB arrangements? I’m open to that too.

Sessions are held at my private home in Sacramento with absolute discretion, confidentiality, and privacy. If you’re looking for a relaxing, complimentary massage, send me a DM. But if you’re just here to chat about what “might” happen, don’t waste my time—I’m not into cybersex.

Also, if you expect a same-day session, think again. I thoroughly vet all new clients before booking. Blank or brand-new profiles won’t get a response—too many fakes, flakes, and catfish out there. And if you claim to be "new" or "discreet" but can’t even fill out a basic profile, save the excuses.

I’m here for real, quality experiences—not random chats with guys looking for a quick thrill. Serious inquiries only. 🤙🏼📢💪🏽

Hello. I have been trained in a variety of massage techniques and occasionally enjoy providing a relaxing tantric/full body sensual massage.

Massages are amazing for the mind, body and spirit and a comfortable relaxing massage with oil, music, can be very relaxing and liberating.

I definitely believe in making sure we are clear on setting expectations and goals of the massages and am comfortable fully respecting any boundaries.

I’m a tall, athletic and good looking guy and can host easily in a house with oils, music etc.

I have lots of great reviews I can share.

Feel free to message me and we can chat further.

Offering complimentary erotic massage throughout the Inland Empire to ladies/couples in the comfort of your own home or hotel room. Looking for someone who loves receiving erotic massage, it's my favorite thing to do. I'll bring everything needed (table, sheets, oil, music of your choice, etc.) and will take excellent care of you, been doing it for 15 years. The massage only goes as far as you want it to. Hands only? Oral? More? It's up to you. You can tell me exactly what you want or leave it up to me. It can start as a regular massage that becomes erotic or it can be erotic from the start. Before we meet we'll discuss desires, expectations, and boundaries. I'm open to many kinks so if there are any you'd like me to know about or would like to incorporate into the massage we can discuss them (and I've heard everything so no judgement on my end). Who knows, we might share some! Very 420 friendly (and can provide if desired) but have no problem abstaining if that's your preference. Couples - your man can watch or help with the massage. I don't have any MFM hang-ups and I'm comfortable being recorded.

Imagine being naked on the table, completely relaxed, covered in warm coconut oil, high (if that's your thing) while I put all my focus and energy into pleasing you, kneading, squeezing, caressing every inch of you. Weed, massage, orgasms, what more do you need? Treat yourself! Don't be shy, no need to be nervous, take a chance and send a chat request. An initial public meeting is no problem. I'm mobile, you must host. Depending on compatibility, sharing a room may be a possibility. No fakes, flakes or time wasters. Please be willing to verify after initial contact. Pic in profile. Various barrier methods, including gloves, are available. I have recent STD results and would appreciate the same.