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Married, no kids, and a usually good conversationalist. I am into pretty much anything that’s interesting, odd, supernatural, spooky, historical, anything like that. I’m not in the worst marriage, but I could definitely use some more attention.

I guess I’m looking for someone to connect with and just experience something with no expectations. I have long brown hair, a very nice ass, and cool tattoos. If I sound like you’re a cup of tea, hit me up.

I’m the kind of woman who thrives on deep connection- but also laughs easily and probably overthinks just the right amount. I’m emotionally intelligent, introspective, and I’ve been doing a lot of inner work lately… which has only made me want to share my life with someone who’s just as emotionally present, kind, and available.

Physically, I’m a plus-size woman-soft, curvy, cute and confident. I say that up front because I’m not here to convince anyone to be attracted to me. If you are, you already know that this kind of presence can’t be measured in inches.

I’m drawn to smart, sensitive types with a sharp wit and a soft heart- someone who isn’t afraid of honesty or showing up fully. If you’re the kind of guy who makes time, opens up, and wants more than just surface-level banter… I’m definitely listening.

Let’s skip the small talk and go a little deeper.

Please be over 45, CST or EST. WI, MN, IL, or upper MI a bonus if IRL is something you’re open to.

Hi there

I'm going to keep this short and sweet! LTR of five years. No kids. Just like many people here, I miss feeling appreciated and desired. I am not looking to change my situation or yours, but hoping to find a connection. I’m open to all possibilities. My availability is pretty flexible, and I enjoy voice messages/ phone calls.

A little about me: 5'4, black, curvy/thick. Affectionate and adorable. I enjoy reading (thrillers and romance) by the pool, baking cookies, and overpriced lattes, and going to the zoo. My Favorite color is pink.

Preference: Age 40+, great sense of humor, in CST or EST time zone. Flexible availability and open to having someone adore you. I don't mind sharing a picture after chatting for a bit. xoxo, B

I love my life, not looking to change anything. Not looking to bash my husband and I would never leave him.

I would love to have an online life with a man to supplement the small gaps in my real life. Would love someone who says all the pretty things, is funny and smart...of course, I want the sexy stuff too. Looking for something long-term with someone open to deep emotional connection. Prefer someone over 25.

I'm 5'5, all tits and no ass, a few extra pounds (those last few pounds are the hardest to lose), tan all over, brown eyes and black hair.

Hey, Canadian mom of two here. With my partner for 9 years now, and we pretty much stay together for the kids.

I miss the feeling of being passionate, always texting, flirting, everything. I'm looking for someone who wants long-term, and who's not afraid to catch feelings.

Physically, I'm a brunette, glasses, 5'4 and mom bod with curves. I love to read, to talk about everything and nothing, and sarcasm. I'm kinky too. I don't have a particular type, but attraction is important so I'll ask we swap pics in the early stages!

Message me if you're interested xxx

…into the hands of someone looking for the same connection.

It’s been a minute since I have been exploring but I am ready once again to start fresh in hopes you are out there. A little about me, 40’s, tall and in shape, very successful career wise, have my life together and all the puzzle pieces are in place except for one. But like every puzzle, it doesn’t look complete unless they are all there.

I seek someone missing that as well who wants a connection on multiple levels. Mentally I seek someone witty and intelligent, emotionally someone who can be empathetic, deep and grounded, and physically someone who takes care of themselves and is vibrant and healthy.

My commitment is to put the time and energy into this that it requires. I want to feel that energy, crave one another, feel the butterflies and sparks and allow all our walls to come tumbling down with one another. I know there is a big sexual component to this and I am excited about that too but it comes as part of the complete package.

I have a lot more to share but I will leave it here in the hopes this finds a curious soul who reaches out with something more than “Hi”. Tell me a bit about you and what you seek and why you responded.

I wish these things never had to end. It never gets easier and I often wonder why I keep trying. Even when it ends on good terms, it can still be difficult. Haunted by what could have been. Missing a virtual presence that was a very real part of my life, even if only for a little while.

Each time I find myself here starting over again I can't help but wonder, what the fuck is wrong with me? Why do I keep coming back when I know I'll just find myself here again? Sad. Disappointed. I suppose it's the high of it. The pleasure. The rush. It's addictive and I can't stay away. I need the connection and stimulation from a mind that mirrors my own.

Will I find it in you? God I hope so.

About me:

• Married and in desperate need of more
• Somewhere between curvy and BBW with massive tits
• Attractive with fair skin, brown hair, and green eyes
• Intelligent with a strong need to shut my brain off
• Very kinky with a particular fondness for passion, teasing and edging, light BDSM, public play, DP, breeding, auralism, praise, mild degredation, dirty talk, and much more
• Obsessed with all things anal (receiving, not giving), especially gaping/stretching
• Size queen, but it's not a requirement
• Hard limits include small talk, ghosting, 50 stupid fucking questions, immaturity, Snapchat, role play, vomit, watersports, scat, blood, harmful/illegal practices, minors, etc.
• I enjoy sharing audio, pictures, or video. I especially love requests, but you have to earn that.

About you:

• Attractive (dad bods welcome, not looking for perfection)
• Dominant personality/sexually and will take the lead
• Intelligent, creative, confident, aggressive
• Filthy as fuck, make me blush and feel small in the best ways
• Masculine (some mix of: strong, deep voice, tall, broad shoulders, mature, well dressed, body hair, facial hair, etc.)
• Around my age (30 - 50, but I acknowledge that age is just an arbitrary number)
• Single, married, cheating... It doesn't matter to me
• High libido
• Available daily or close to it, including nights and weekends (understanding that real life always comes first for us both)
• Preferably EST, but close will work. Across the pond is usually a deal breaker.
• Will also share audios, pictures, and videos

What I'm looking for:

I need something long term. Someone who is as dedicated to this as I am, preferably monogam~ish. I definitely don't have the bandwidth for multiple partners with all of the time and energy I dedicate to this. I need someone who can seduce me with intelligence, passion, and filth. Talk to me like a man who knows how to please a woman. Tell me all of the ways you want to treasure me and ruin me. Degrade me and praise me. Whore me and adore me. Let's strike that delicate balance between primal debauchery and passionate intensity. Hopefully this speaks to you.

I feed off of the energy you give me and you will get it all right back. I want to be each other's most filthy, illicit fantasy...obsession, even. I am a pleaser. I want to learn the things you like and give them to you to the best of my ability. I want to be the reason you stroke your cock. Your cum is mine.

All you have to do is match my energy and set me on fire with your words and mind. Can you do that? Do you want to burn together? I do. I need a particular energy and chemistry, most of which lives in conversation and is supplemented with media. Physical attraction is important, but it is ultimately the mind and connection that I'm after. I need you to fuck my body through my mind. I'm a challenge, but if we hit it off you definitely won't be disappointed.

Please don't waste either of our time with a one word or otherwise uninspired message. Be engaging. Tempt me. Provoke me. I'm not here for small talk, love, or a vanilla friend. I can't stress enough that I am looking for a very particular mind and chemistry...What you say is just as important as how you say it.

(This isn't my only account or my first rodeo.)

I’m 32M, Korean, born and raised in Seoul, now living on the East Coast and working full-time in an office setting. I stay active, fit, and keep up with life. On the outside, everything looks solid. But lately I’ve felt that quiet ache, the kind that comes from feeling neglected emotionally, physically, and intimately. The spark’s been gone for a while, and I miss being seen, desired, and wanted for who I am.

I’m not looking to turn anyone’s life upside. If you’re feeling similarly — lonely in a relationship, or just missing that part of yourself — I’d love to hear from you. Let’s keep things fun!

Thank you

I guess the more I think of it, the more I realize what I am looking for.

I am married. Things are pretty stale and lonely. Feels colder all the time. You’re more alone at home than you should be. We don’t have kids, so it’s just me and the dog most times chilling. Most of my friends live far away and I am looking for a special woman to share the days with. I have time. Looking for another woman with time. Sure I could be out on hikes, or reading or chilling on the couch. I like to cook and take pictures while out in nature. I am a bit of a nerd and like nerdy things. Sorry if you don’t lol. I like to laugh and take life not very serious. But I am looking to connect with you. On all levels. Make each other laugh and smile..and turn each other on as well. I miss the passion and fun.

I am average height and build. Short hair, short kept beard and tattoos. I have piercing blue eyes. My mom told me I was handsome lol 😉not sure that means anything to you. I did land a wife at least right!?

If I sound like someone you might want to spend some time with bantering, laughing and maybe driving each other a little wild during all this crazyness, send me a message!

I remember that day as if it were yesterday. The exhilaration of experimenting sharing something so new, so dangerous, so intimate. And I'll never forget the look on your face. The way the sweat glistened on your hard body. Then you tied my ankles. Tighter. Tighter. But it just wasn't right. It wasn't natural. Bungee-jumping is just too dangerous a sport.

The above is a reference to a movie that provides plenty of laughs so bonus invisible Internet points if you know it without looking it up.

If you look it up, I hope you got some laughs but no internet points will be awarded unless you contact me. Between the title and the first paragraph you might get an idea of the sense of humor I have.

Besides all that, let's make this post even longer than it shouldn't.

The usual setup:

Married with a kid, dead bedroom. Looking for that connection that gets us excited to see a message from each other to get that mental and emotional connection and if we're lucky close enough for a physical connection as well.

The about me section:

I work full time and spend a couple days a week in the afternoon with activities for the kid. Doesn't mean I'm not available or won't make time but life comes first and as long as it's respected by both of us, it'll make things easier for both of us.

I am not fit and I'm not a gym rat, I don't even have a membership. I'm working on it, slowly, but going to get there one day. I'm down 40 pounds in the last few months with more to go. Along the same lines, I do not hike. I know it's the number 1 activity that's replaced the old long walks on the beach line but unfortunately I do either of them.

I can try to sell myself as being perfect for everyone but I know I'm not and honestly trying to aim for perfect will just make the search harder. Does that mean just settling? Of course not. It's finding what is right for both of us and our weird flaws. A simple post won't result in a guarantee but it's worth a try and better than getting a bunch of unsolicited pics you didn't want to begin with.

The finale section:

While I live in NY state, I live in Central NY which means I'll probably have a lesser chance of anyone from this area finding this post but still going to try. And by Central NY I mean nowhere near new york city, I'm a four hour drive away from that crazy place. EST works just as well. Other time zones could be okay just be okay if there are bigger gaps in conversations because of it.

I can't guarantee to be that perfection you're looking for but willing to be the best I can for you. I can move to other apps for communication if things progress.

If nothing else, if you ask nicely enough, I can provide a dad joke for you to give you a little chuckle.

Calling all Lurkers… Here's what they are saying about Alex the Aussie

"He's really tall. Great for getting things off high shelves." — That tiny woman at the shops

"Smells great. Nothing like a Koala." — Person who sat next to him on the plane during his last trip to America.

"Has a great taste in music and tv shows /movies. Always spot on with his recommendations." — Guy he works with.

"Doesn't Ghost." — AP 1

"I didn't mind his cooties." - Sophie, middle school crush

"The authoritative voice is a turn-on. I could listen to that man read the phone book." — the customer service representative at the bank

"He watched some of my 'girl' shows with me and didn't try change the channel to the basketball." — W

"He's a nice man. You could do worse!" — Your mum

"He makes a great bowl of porridge." — His son "Really a good kisser. He gave me an "Aussie Kiss." - AP 2

"Easy on the eyes. Very easy on the eyes." — Gym crush

"Not a psycho." - Everyone

Hey there!

I'm a 30-year-old guy from Australia, standing at 6'1", tan, l've been described as conventionally attractive, but l'd rather leave that up to you to judge. I've been married for 10 years, but I find myself yearning for something new, a connection that's thrilling and just for me. I'm seeking a fun, outgoing woman who knows how to enjoy life and can hold a meaningful conversation. Age between 25-45 doesn't matter, and location is irrelevant-l'm open to meeting someone no matter where you are.

I'm passionate about adventure, whether it's spontaneous road trips, trying new foods, or just having a laid-back chat. I believe in living fully and experiencing the world around me.

So, if you're a woman who's fun, attractive, adventurous, and knows what you want out of life, I'd love to hear from you. Let's create our own story.

A <3

Hi there. Looking for the one that makes me melt. The one who I can’t wait to sneak away to hear from. Serious inquiries only. Looking for something long term.

I am a mother. Professional. Love to read. Write. And sing. Cooking is a passion of mine. You sure can cook or bake your way into a persons heart!

I have recently began to get into a few series on Netflix. Midnight Mass was my last binge. I find I rarely have time to do this anymore. What do you like to watch? Maybe we can watch something together!

What have you been reading lately?

I am shooting my shot yet again, I've had success doing this before so I want to try it again. I am 37, white female, very successful, married, a mom, a dog mom, sarcastic, quick and witty. I can banter with the best of them. I am in a marriage that doesn't fulfill me in any way, I am not looking to change my situation OR yours but I want to find my person, I know you're out there. I take good care of myself and I can confidently say that I am good looking.

About you: I want you to also be successful in your job, in your life. I want someone who takes care of themselves, please...do not slide in dick first, I will not respond. Looks are important to me and I prefer a dad bod, white man, with tattoos (not necessary but a plus!) if that makes me shallow, so be it. I prefer a guy who is a little bit older than me..I've have the best luck with older men. I don't necessarily want you to disrespect your wife, but someone who is happy, in love, has a wild sex life, need not apply. I can't handle that type of relationship. A mature adult man is the most attractive thing on the planet to me!

A little bit of communication goes a long long way with me! II am the type of person who will make sure you know I am thinking of you on my busiest days, I want someone who can communicate the same way. Don't disappear for hours on end with zero communication, it's rude. I want someone who can banter with me, keep up with my sarcasm and is fun. I want a long term affair. I am not looking for a fling, I am not looking for a sexual only relationship, I kind of need to feel safe before I open up that way. I know I sound cold, I'm not. I just know what I want. If you've made it this far, tell me your age and timezone and your favorite dog breed!

Happily married guy here — love my wife, adore her rants about throw pillows and true crime, BUT sometimes a man just needs to talk to someone who doesn’t immediately remind him to take out the trash mid-sentence. I’m not here for anything sketchy. Not looking for drama, affairs, or emotional entanglements that require a chart to follow. Just a regular ol’ chat with a fellow human about literally anything else — weird hobbies, awkward work stories, why cereal hits different at night — you know, the important things. Looking for: * Chill vibes * Occasional memes * Someone who also pretends to understand taxes * Bonus if you hate pineapple on pizza (not required, but preferred) Not looking for: * Anything shady * Love triangle auditions * Deep therapy sessions (unless you're a licensed professional and this is free, in which case... let's talk) Let’s keep it light, keep it honest, and keep it far away from any "So, what are we?" moments. Drop a message if you’re down to chat about life, snacks, or why my dog is probably plotting against me.

I’m here for the same reason you are - wanting to find that spark again and create a fun connection with someone. I want to be excited to check my phone and message back and forth and build something together.

I’m 34, tall, blonde, fit, and have a beard. While I am more of a homebody lately I do enjoy cooking, a good show, sports, the outdoors, working out and keeping myself fit. If you enjoy corny jokes and not taking life too seriously, I’m your guy!

I’m really hoping to find someone who shares some of the same passions as me and is interested in building a connection with someone. I’m definitely looking for someone to share sexual content and conversations with as well, but I don’t want to overlook the connection aspect. I also know mutual attraction is important, so I am willing to exchange a picture early on and would expect you to as well.

You push, I press.
You scold, I smirk.
You tell me what to do… I say make me—and god, I want you to.

About me:
I’m petite, curvy, and more than a little mouthy—but I crave someone who knows exactly how to shut me up in all the right ways.
By day, I run my world and juggle everything. Behind closed doors, I want to surrender.
I'm clever, articulate, and too quick for most. Absolutely bratty—but never to annoy. I brat to earn. I melt for praise. I live for being called good girl.

I’m looking for:
• A bedroom-only dynamic (not 24/7, not TPE, not a micromanager)
• Someone who thrives on teasing, control, denial, praise, spanking, and verbal domination
• A mentally stimulating connection—I get off on intellect as much as touch
• Online, with the possibility of more if the dynamic clicks

I love:
• Praise kink / approval-seeking
• Edging & orgasm denial
• Light humiliation (playful, not degrading)
• Verbal and intellectual dominance
• Spanking, restraints, light impact, breath play
• Being “forced” to submit after resistance (and CNC roleplay)
• All kinds of RP, especially power-exchange or corruption play

Pics available for anyone who engages me mentally.

I gravitate toward tall men (6’+ because I love being tossed), those who wield words like weapons, and those who bring big cock energy—literally and otherwise. Age/race doesn’t matter. Intelligence, confidence, and that deep, growly voice that dares me to keep going? That’s what gets me.

It feels like everyone here is obsessed with the “What are you looking for?” question. Am I crazy to feel like the whole point of these subs is to be less predictable than that?

I have no idea what you and I will become. The fun part is finding out.

For the basics: I’m 33, on EST, married, intelligent but not an asshole about it, fully employed and a functional adult, and while I may be a dork about some things, I am not the Reddit neckbeard type. I’m in shape and attractive, unless redheads are a dealbreaker for you (which is totally a thing). I write for a living, so I promise I can hold a conversation, and I have about a million hobbies/interests, so I’m 100% sure we’ll have something or many things in common.

Let’s hang out?

Happy Thursday everyone. Posting here hoping to find a fun, awesome and semi-normal person to get to know and see where that goes.

About me, in list form: - 38, fit, attractive, great eyes, good jaw line - Normal, funny, a touch goofy - lover of sports (football and basketball are the best) and spend lots of time working out - book lover. Any recommendations? - I’m excited for spring because yardwork is relaxing and peaceful

About you: - be fun, normal, trustworthy and awesome!

That’s kind of it! Just looking for someone to get to know and take it slow and see where it all leads. No pressure just a slow burn and hopefully it can turn into something great. Chat soon!

Im a 40 year old married white male who lives in Colorado looking for hopefully what you are looking for, a new connection. I feel stuck in my life. A dead bedroom, a dead-end job, and 4 kids under 10. I'm looking for someone in the same or similar situation. Wanting to find a friend that can develop into something more and deeper. Online or in real life or a combo of both. I just want to have that spark that seems to have been lost. I have many hobbies. I love cooking, traveling, science, history, astronomy, movies, and video games.

Hi I'm in the Midwest, I have fabulous hair and all of my teeth. I'm in shape from running, can do a backflip on a trampoline and have the best flowers on the block...all the 65 yea old ladies tell me, but I suck at keeping houseplants alive. I don't drink alcohol or do drugs. I can identify a lot of birds by song which I've learned as a runner honestly, keeps my mind off how bad it sucks sometimes. I don't get offended, have a good sense of humor and don't want to talk politics. I WFH so I prefer someone who has time to invest. I listen to mostly punk rock or metal but my favorite album is neither. Send me some tunes and let's chat. Happy Spring and happy planting!

Looking for someone who’s fit, curious, and has a deep appreciation for poetry, art, and the beauty in the little things.

I’m 35 (Asian), work in data, and live a pretty active life—lifting, running, hiking, climbing, and the occasional surf/ski trip. I’m also drawn to the quieter side of things: literature, photography, and long, winding conversations that go deep into the night.

I’m not here to change my life—I like where I’m at. But I am hoping to find that rare connection, the spark that colors everything. I want to feel alive again - maybe you are too?

…that I’m here for the love. If I’m honest I’m a cake eater at heart. I’m looking for someone who is also seeking more. To explore. To be sneaky. To flirt when no one is looking. To discuss those things that we can’t share with our partners, for whatever reason.

I’m someone who can’t stop looking for that perfect connection. That person who has an unending thirst to explore their kinks and fantasies, but can’t share it with their partner. Who isn’t here to talk all day, every day, but find those shared moments when we can both be naughty.

I’m tall, (6’4) with short black hair and hazel eyes. Dark features and olive skin. Australian with a fun accent. I don’t care where you live or how often you can talk, as long as you are fun, bubbly, open and honest about the subjects you want to explore with me. If you’re shy, we probably aren’t a good match.

I’m especially impartial to curvy and/or busty mom bods, but it’s more about what drive you wild that I’m interested in as opposed to how you look. If this sounds like a fun sojourn for you, send me a chat with a little about you. Oh, and please be over 27. I just don’t feel like anyone younger is on the same page.

Hello Women,

I'm a married man, here to talk to a girl (preferably married and under 40). I'm 6ft tall and brown skinned.

Lets start with knowing each other and then maybe we can get dirty as time passes. I'm not rushing into anything. I'm shy and pretty introverted.

I don't show face and neither do I pressure for face pics. Looking for good humor, curvy tits and lots of naughty texting. I'm very new to this so you'll have to maybe teach me the ways of the online world.

I am not really into roleplays, but we can talk about it. I'm not in an unhappy marriage to make you clear. And yes, she doesnt know that I am here. It's just something that I am trying because I just feel kind of lonely at times. I may have a lot of questions. I may not be the ideal one. BUT I'm a confident person, knows good english. Not a creep.

Not looking for hookups. Something virtual and friendly which can later get naughty. I dont like bdsm or hateful stuff. I'm more of a romantic.

And yes, I'm a dominant kind of a person and I love being pleased. Surprise me with yourself ladies ;)

Hit me up if you are into it and we can get talking. See you ladies.

Hi! Normally I am not the kind of person that would make this kind of post, but I realized the person I am looking for wouldn't make one either. So here I am!

Let me preface this with the fact that I am not very good at talking about myself unprompted. If you're interested in learning more about me I'd be more than glad to answer any questions!

I am looking for someone that I can consistently talk to and care for. Ideally, the relationship would be a healthy mixture of a SFW and NSFW relationship. It is extremely important to me to form a solid foundation before things become too physical/sexual. I consider myself to be a very kind person, and a good communicator! I take pride in being kind to everyone :). I work from home so I tend to have plenty of times for texting and calls! I am lucky that I typically love my job and programming. In my free time I like to program, cook, learn new things and adventure! I am always interested in trying out new things, especially when I am with someone else who is passionate about it! I am looking for someone to revel with, someone who I can be best friends with! I tend to be most attracted to kind, warm hearted people. I want someone who cares about things as much as I do!

Lastly, I would like to say that these kinds of relationships can be complicated to navigate, so patience, communication, and empathy are some of the most important traits you I could ask for.

I hope this got your attention :)

Married, 40, and here for the kind of connection that lingers on your mind, on your skin, and in all the best ways. I’m not chasing drama or a quick fix. I want slow-burning chemistry, deep conversation, and someone who knows that physical attraction and emotional intimacy should go hand in hand.

I lift heavy, run to stay sharp, and take care of myself mind, body, and everything in between. Bald, tattooed, clean-shaven, and confident in all the ways that matter. I’m quiet at first, but once we click? The teasing gets bolder, the touches linger longer, and the tension starts to build in the best possible way.

I’m not here to turn your life upside down. I’m here to be the one who makes your heart race and your day better. I want a connection that grows one we can feel even when we’re not in the same room. If we become something more? Perfect. If not, I’ll still be the one you remember whenever someone asks if you’ve ever had something real and hot at the same time.

So if you’re confident, kind, take care of yourself, and want something built on both fire and trust… say hi. I already like where this could go.