Hello, everyone! We're now back under new management, and are in the process of clearing a large backlog of spam. Thanks go out to those who have been reporting rule-breaking content; please continue to do so, and reach out to us by messaging the moderators if you see anything amiss.

My plans for the community are to bring it back into smooth operation, and ensure it remains free of scams and rule-breaking content. I'll try my best to explain the new changes (important bits in bold for those who don't want to read a boring wall of text), and am soliciting feedback from the existing community to ensure they are in everyone's best interest. None of this is set in stone, so any feedback, questions, concerns are welcome, please leave it either in the comments, or by messaging the moderators.

Rule changes effective immediately

• The no-selling rule will be strictly enforced: Any mention of exchanges for money or goods, or of commercial activities, will result in a ban. These violate the Reddit Content Policy on Prohibited Transactions, which moderators are obligated to enforce; violators will be reported to Reddit to have their accounts permanently suspended site-wide. Do not mention commercial or prohibited services for any reason, even to ask people not to respond with them; this can trigger our bot to ban you! Scammers will not read your post, so asking them not to spam you will not be productive. If you are banned by mistake, you may appeal the ban by replying to the ban message.
• Posts and comments containing or requesting contact info are now strictly forbidden. These are overwhelmingly being used by scammers to side-step account suspensions, and there are privacy and safety concerns to allowing people to include contact info in posts that we cannot verify is their own. Like most similar communities, we will not be allowing contact info to be posted publicly. Feel free to specify a preferred platform, but the username must be exchanged in private, and your post cannot ask users to send their usernames. Attempts to circumvent this in any way will result in bans.
• Only conversations directed to the OP will be allowed in R4R posts; discussions between multiple people are no longer allowed except on [Meta] posts like this announcement, and [Success] posts. Most such discussions have tended to be attempts at harassment, blatant spam, or people mistakenly replying to a comment instead of the post, so this change should not impact normal use of the community. If you see a rule-breaking post, please use the report button to report it; please remember to message the mods if the rule violation is not very obvious, so it does not get missed!

New Features now available

• Search-by-location and search-by-R4R-tag are now enabled, via the community main menu. This feature is currently available only on Reddit.com when viewed in a browser; while you can still use the mobile app to browse and post here, please use the desktop site for search, as you'll have a much better experience. We are exploring options to develop our own search webapp. Check it out at the top of the page! Note that only recent posts will get location flair, so the results will be pretty sparse for a while. To make sure your own post gets indexed properly, please use the format #City, State/Province (including the comma, and with only one # before the city name) in your post title, if possible; specifying a state/province and country (#Uttar Pradesh, India), or just country for smaller nations (#United Kingdom), is also permitted, if you don't want to include your specific town or city. Up to two location tags (including the #Online tag) may be specified, e.g., #DC and #NOVA or #NSW or #Online. Please ensure your #tagged location suits how far you are willing to travel to meet someone; don't specify an entire country or huge region if you're not able to venture far outside your city.
• We now allow users to choose to lock their posts. To do so, include the command !lock anywhere within the body of the post. Locked posts will get a comment by the automod reminding users how to contact the author; by default, posts will not be locked or commented, and this will remain an optional feature for those who do wish to allow comments. Locking doesn't affect a post's visibility or ranking in any way. Some people, particularly new accounts that may not be able to send chat messages, may prefer to respond in comments, but we leave it up to the author to decide if they want to allow these types of responses or not.
• The title formatting is now more flexible. We still require an [R4R] tag, #tagged location, and activity in the title, but posts will no longer be removed for including those things in a different order, or for missing a dash, etc. A lot of people were struggling with this; if you couldn't get your post correct before, please try again now.
• Much better spam and scam filtering. Our team has developed an AI-based bot to combat the "NYC Catfish Queen", who has plagued this community for years. Our bot has been successful in removing the vast majority of this group's posts, as well as most other types of scams. Users from NYC should now have far less issues with false-positive post removals, as our AI can distinguish them from the scam group with far greater accuracy than Automod.
• Account age and karma requirements are now eliminated. The bots/scammers have long been able to evade these, and they're only hurting newcomers to the community. Our AI handles this task far better than these simplistic filters.
• Note that new posts no longer receive a comment from the Automod telling you you've posted. This gets rather spammy for people who post every week, and is generally distracting. If your post is removed, the bot will tell you exactly what's wrong and how to fix it. Note that due to spam-filtering, some posts may be delayed a few hours; this is normal, and you typically don't have to do anything, as we review the spam queue regularly. If your post does remain caught in the spam filter for an excessively long time, feel free to message the mods to ask what's up.

Planned future changes

• We are considering increasing the required post length from 30 words to 50. We want to ensure that low-effort posts don't wind up burying the posts of people who have put time and effort into composing good, descriptive posts; overly short posts also make for a poor searching experience. The removal message now gives an estimate of how many words short a post is, to assist users in fixing their posts. Note that padding out a post with filler or nonsense will not make it meet the requirements; the bot is smart enough to not count filler text. Please let us know what you think of these changes; do you agree, disagree, or have other suggestions we should implement?
• In the future, we are going to introduce an official, optional, method of including a verification clip in posts. We do not intend for this ever to be mandatory simply to post here, though the plan is for us to make this a requirement for anyone who has publicly posted photos (whether here or elsewhere on their profile), or requests photos be included in an initial message. This will allow everyone to confirm publicly-posted photos are recent and of the author, while not forbidding or penalizing those who elect to not publicly share photos. This feature is still in development, though you may reach out to us now if you want to try it out or give feedback.

These are the ideas we are currently working on, but we are open to other suggestions as well if there are additional concerns we should address. Please leave your feedback in the comments. We will continue to update this post based on feedback and progress on introducing these features; updates will be added below.

Some Notes On Location Search

The menu options are divided up based on activity on Reddit communities similar to this one; areas that get a lot of posts have lots of divisions to make them practical to search, while regions where Reddit is not popularly used may be divided only into continents. Once this has been operating for a while, we will review the search divisions to see if any improvements can be made.

For example, if you're a woman seeking a guy in Calgary, you'd start by picking Canadian Prairies from the Americas region menu. When you find an appropriate M4F Alberta post, tapping on its flair will show others like it, with the exact R4R tag and province. Alternatively, you can edit the search query after selecting a menu item, to keep only the desired flair:"Alberta" search query.

The actual flairs themselves are divided mostly at the country level; some non-country territories also have an entry, mainly when they are widely separated from their parent nation. The United States, Canada, Australia, India, and Brazil are further divided into states/provinces.

We will review these divisions and their menu structure periodically, to ensure they continue to suit our user base. The hope is that this will be intuitive, and give a coarse place to start your search. A more detailed location directory is being worked on, and will be posted at a later date along with an official How-To Guide.

Due to severe space limitations in the menu, some of the names are difficult to read, so here's what they mean:

If there are any others that are unclear to you, or if you want to suggest better names for these, please let us know.

Location search took a lot of work to get up and running smoothly, and we're still making tweaks; it will even be fully brought over to the Old Reddit layout as well sometime in the next several weeks. I'd also like to thank everyone who has worked on building or testing this feature over the past year. If you see anything acting strangely, please let us know so that we can fix it.

First off, just want to mention that I am not a bot and am looking for a fwb. Been trying to several months now and haven't had much luck. I am fit, active, and enjoy going out for some fun. I've been celibate for a while now and just trying to get back out there.

Anyways I am looking for guys who are well endowed 7.5" and up, fit, no fat guys or super skinny guys. Guys who are tall, I'm 5'7 so I don't really like short men. Not really attracted to redheads or blondes, would be refer brunettes, that are fit and attractive. Age wise would like someone 27-35, not married, and won't make exceptions! If you think you're a good fit for me, then reach out to me and put "cookie" anywhere just so I know you read my post! Thanks!

Just like the title says here, I love being naughty from time to time and including everything, sending, sexting all of it. I love receiving tasks, commands, being controlled and according to my performance being punished/rewarded being called praising/degrading names I want it all to be blamed on me.
Of course punishments would be body writing, pain play etc.. only limit would be toilet stuff I'd say
So I love being soft and hard dommed.
I'm a natural submissive so if that's your thing we can go for it, if it's not I'm also open to experimenting if you are too!

Hope to meet some nice people ;)

Hey there reddit women! Good looking, single, white, dude here looking for some pussy to eat. I’m in bed teasing myself and seeking for somebody to have good sex with and hopefully help me orgasm. I would love for you to tell me your kinks and how you’d use my body.

Missing something like physical touch? Always wanted to experience a younger man? I am very tattooed, in my later 30s and run my own business that allows me beautiful time freedom. I’d love to stop by and help you feel amazing, both on the outside and the inside. Drop me a message. Hope to hear from you.

34 M Asian, 5’10”, slight dad bod. Looking to escape reality for a bit and spend the day playing with you in a hotel room. We can watch some of your favorite videos and reenact it for our fantasies. Looking to keep this discrete and maybe it this works out we can make this a regular thing.

Hi! I’m Isaac, born in Korea but grew up overseas. Back in the Korea doing my time in the army. But luckily I’m almost over! I get discharged on April 22nd. (Heck yea)

Now before I get discharge I think I need one last fuck. Like a last Hurrah before getting discharge. I have time from Friday(tomorrow) to Sunday! Lets just have fun and get crazy. And who knows? After getting discharge we can be FWB or friends

I’m just so excited of finishing the Army!

Looking for a chat with a local, would be great, to have some company when I'm in the city. There for a long weekend and will have a decent hotel room for 4 days to myself.

If there's any recommendations on where to go for good food, a good coffee, where 'alt' crowds hang out etc I'd be up for that too!

I don't think physical attributes matter that much especially at this point but if you're interested I'm 6'1, dad bod, broad and a bit hairy. I have no real preference on physicalities but I'm a sucker for dark painted nails, nice hips and piercings/tats.

Of course, I am on other apps too and happy to move onto them once you are but we can stay here for the time being if that is easier.

Speak soon x

I’m 5’9, 135 lbs, and have brown hair. I’m open to all women. I just ask that you’re STD-free for safety. I’m kind of new to Peoria, so I’m looking to step outside my comfort zone with this. I’d love a dm to talk.

I'm really into guys who excel at giving head—not just someone who's willing, but someone who’s passionate about it, knows all the right moves, and actually enjoys making it an unforgettable experience. Skill, enthusiasm, and confidence go a long way

27M, Latino 6’1’’, 160lbs. DDF.

I’ve been fortunate to have made a few connections/friends exploring my sexuality, and I’m looking to start doing the same this year. Just looking for people to meet in order to get to enjoy one another and let go of some of post-work stress.

I’m down to chat some, talk about how we’d have our experience go, and generally see if we’re a good fit. If interested, feel free to send me a DM or chat.

Hey I'm Peter, a 28-year-old British bloke hailing from a town just outside London, currently in SFfor work. I've always had a blast meeting up with people from Reddit, so I thought, why not give it another whirl?

About Me:

I'm your typical 5ft 11 bloke with blue eyes, brown hair, and a beard that’s neatly trimmed - well, almost as well-groomed as the Queen's corgis. I'm passionate about traveling, particularly the excitement of planning new adventures. Right now, I'm meticulously organizing a trip to South Africa next month. Additionally, I'm a fervent football (soccer) enthusiast and an avid reader, gravitating towards non-fiction, although I must admit, I do harbor a considerable soft spot for the enchanting world of Harry Potter! Who doesn't love abit of magic!

I'm ddf and ready to host.. My previous encounters through Reddit have been quite fulfilling, and I'm eager to embark on another delightful experience. While I'm open-minded and adventurous when it comes to exploring kinks, I do have some firm boundaries, which we can discuss further if you're intrigued (:

About You:

• Ideally aged between 18 and 40.
• DDF and either able to travel or located in the San Francisco area
• Open to a fun and enjoyable time together.

As mentioned, I'm more than happy to meet up beforehand to ensure mutual comfort and chemistry. If you're free over the next few days and the prospect of this piques your interest, don't hesitate to drop me a message (:

I am mainly looking for someone that's local in the WNY area. I would be open to online too though if we clicked.

A bit about me: I am a 42 year old dude in the Buffalo NY area. 6' tall, dark hair, dark eyes, trim beard and athletic body. I play sports and keep active. Also love to play guitar in my spare time.

A bit about you: Loves men with dominant personalities. But also enjoys a man that can be sweet and caring.

Hey, I'm 18 y/o, lean, blond, and about six feet tall, currently in college. I'm looking for a woman who'd like to help show me the ropes. I'm down to try new things (within reason), so feel free to reach out and see what might work! I also love talking arts or just chilling together, so I'm hoping we can connect there. I can't host, so ideally you'll be able to! If you DM me I would appreciate if you attached a selfie, and I'll send one back.

I’ve moved to the DMV area, recently. I don’t have too many friends up here that aren’t co-workers. Would love to change that with someone who can hangout and also loves sexy play.

Allow me tell you about myself. I am in the military. I am 5’7”, athletic, and white. I enjoy workouts and the outdoors, but also enjoy my time inside. I like nerd and geek culture things. I enjoy being well rounded in the subjects I explore. I find life is very enjoyable and interesting with plenty of pleasures to be had.

I’m looking for someone who wants to play hard. Someone who is interested in excitement and passion. I will steal you away for moments of ecstasy. I’m interested in dominating, claiming, and making you my free use toy. You wonder about what I have planned for you next, and you will be wet thinking about the possibilities. My intention is to be your drug, and what I want is your addiction. It’d be cool to go on some hikes, also.

Hey everyone, looking for someone to help each other destress and have some fun. Something laidback and chill. A bit about me: 24 Latino M. I’m about 5’8 and 140lbs. I would say I’m decently in shape. I workout and play soccer from time to time, when the weather allows me lol. I’m really into movies, any and all kinds. My current favorite movie is The Grand Budapest Hotel. So if you like movies, we’ll definitely get along.

If any of this is interesting to you, let me know and we’ll chat. Let’s get to know each other and see where we go from there.

I need a woman to edge me, control me, feed me and tease me what ever you please to me, I've been built up for weeks now and I need to release. please come take this load for yourself and drain me dry. make me yours and take it from me I've been needing to bust for so very long abt me 6'2" long blonde hair 150 lbs

Hey, my name is Thomas and i wanna just give this a chance and see where it leads.

So the headline gives it mostly away and yes i never had sex before. Now you are probably asking why?

Good Question and not as easy to answer. I am a very social guy. I grew up playing different kind of sports all my life. Then teenage life hit me and while a lot of friends started getting girlfriends an exploring the unknown, i never really felt too comfortable talking to girls and especially flirting with them.

The normal stuff in school and such was no problem, even now in my job i have no problems talking to women but flirting for me is a different story. That also means im not the type that goes to a woman at a party and just starts chatting with her. Im more the quiet type that enjoys the party and hangs out with his friends :)

Other than that im very easy going. I love animals, did the occasional 420 and just in general enjoy hanging out and do lots of different stuff.

And now i also wanna change the part in life that probably came a little too short for me so far and gain new experiences, chat with awesome people and all that good stuff.

A little bit about myself im 180cm tall. I have blue eyes, wear glasses and look pretty normal. Dont have any tattoos yet but im considerig for a while now.

How should you look like you ask? Honestly i dont really have a prefered type. If ur open minded and have no problem with me being a little bit more on the shy side at the beginning then i would say you hit the nail in the coffin.

So if u think this guy sounds kinda nice or even interesting just hit me up. Like i said im always open for good conversations. :)

Hey everyone! My name is Sam, I'm 25 and I live in Rowley, near Birmingham, though I am happy to travel.

I love walking and hiking, I love getting out into the countryside and find new places, or hike around the woods. I also play guitar and would love one day to release my own music! I'm a big fan of metal music and would love to find a concert buddy too :)

I'd love to chat and see where things lead. I'm very open minded too and I'm an absolute sucker for cuddles, would love to cuddle and just talk about life

I am very hygienic, always clean, smelling fresh and dressing well. I pride myself on good manners and politeness. I am shaved most of the time, above and below.

I cant accommodate, but I'm happy to travel and could help with a hotel room too. I'm also open to repeat meets, socials and FWBs too!

Feel free to drop me a message, I'd love to just chat too!

Take care!

As the title states! I'm 36, can host in Northside, and I'm looking for casual fun with ladies only please! 6ft, dad bod with blue eyes. Reach out for more info and pics.

Hey, thanks for reading!

I'm a 24 year old secondary school teacher, 5' 7", Slim fit build, 65kg, pakistani, and incredibly horny!

Having a busy schedule means I rarely get the chance for my own fun, so im hoping to get some in over the half term while I can. Based in east london, can host late.

Im not usually one for just ONS, I tend to prefer some sort of connection or chemistry. There are times where im just too horny to care but its usually the goal 😅 im a hopeless romantic really, just have a high drive hehe. I'm into pleasing over my own pleasure, giving head and touching you all over are what I love. Pillow princesses dream i guess. Not the most kinky but I usually try and include whatever you're into if it means pleasing you!

I have no particular type im looking for, just anyone with good vibes that isn't too serious and is up for some fun. I go to a lot of concerts, watch anime, play games and see loads of movies.

DM if you're curious!

Hi I'm 24 and I'm student. I live in Llandeilo it's 45 min from Swansea or 25 min from Carmarthen.

I'd like to discover my submissive side, so I'm trying to find a woman who can be a dominant. Also I'd like to tey anal sex. As my sex life was pretty boring I'd like to try pretty much everything:)

Many thanks!

6'5" (1.96m), white, muscular athletic dad bod.

I've turned many anal virgins into my personal anal gape and ass to mouth whores.

Looking for more girls to gape and use as my anal fucktoys and cumdumps.

No experience required, I'll open and stretch your asshole out so you can take my cock if you're an anal virgin or beginner.

I can be as nice and gentle or rough as you like.

Other things we can do:

I stretch and gape your asshole huge with toys and my hand if you can take it, I pull my cock out of your gaping asshole and put it in your mouth so you can taste your ass, you tongue my ass until I cum all over your face while your mouth is open wide with your tongue out, I cum in your ass and you push it out onto my cock and swallow it, I slap your face, choke you, fuck your throat, and piss in your mouth.

Let me know if any of those are limits.

I love kissing and cuddling.

I'm also open to a monogamous relationship if we're compatible.

Married dad in #RVA. 5’9”, short brown hair, blue eyes , dad bod, 8.5 in throbbing, neglected cock in need of attention and draining. Are you in need of some attention or fun? Let’s take care of each others needs and desires.

Hey, we are two kinky friends who love getting to play together with others. We are open to lots of kinks and are both in our late 20s/early 30s. So if this sounds interesting to you why not DM me and we can see where it goes from there.

I’ll be in Wisconsin for this week into next week. I can host in my hotel room. Hoping to find a lady to please. I enjoy nothing more than you climaxing multiple times. Can guarantee to do just that. I’m tall with a dad bod but have lots of energy. We can certainly chat before meeting so see if we vibe. Hopefully it can be ongoing thing.