r/safesexph
Hello, welcome to r/SafeSexPH! This subreddit is dedicated to bridging the gap between Filipinos and comprehensive sexuality education. What exactly does that mean? "Comprehensive sexuality education (CSE) gives young people accurate, age-appropriate information about sexuality and their sexual and reproductive health, which is critical for their health and survival." Source
With so much misinformation, fear mongering, and baseless beliefs running rampant in our local communities and Filipino spaces online, we aim to provide a trustworthy hub of proper information about sex, sexuality, and sexual health. We encourage our community members, both new and old, to treat r/SafeSexPH as a safe space to discuss things like preventing pregnancy, preventing or navigating sexually transmitted infections, practicing consent, recognizing sexually abusive behavior, responsibly practicing kink play, and navigating sex in general in the Philippines.
– Great! How do we start?
If you haven't already, join our community! There will be a JOIN button on the top right portion of the page, both on desktop and mobile. You can see new threads from other users on your home feed that way, and you can also stay up-to-date on announcements about the community itself, community events like AMAs (Ask Me Anything sessions), and great deals or finds by other community members.
– How do we post?
While we welcome a diverse range of conversations and questions, we also want to ensure that this subreddit is a safe space for everyone. When it comes to safety, we don't stop at just the different types of sexual safety we mentioned earlier. Please keep in mind that so many people, especially those who are new to our sub, will be starting at square one. Everyone starts at square one, so please be patient and redirect them to threads or pages that can help them, like this one.
The full list of rules can be found here, but you can also find a RULES button when you're on the Create New Post page on the mobile app. Be sure to give it a read, and afterwards, you should be good to go! Post away, we are more than glad to see you engage in our community and with fellow community members.
When engaging in conversation with other posts, please keep responses respectful and kind. As much as possible, if there's an exchange of information, please make sure proper sources are cited or linked to avoid further spread of misconceptions about sex, sexual health, and sexual safety. If you spot misinformation, discriminatory language, and trolling or taunting in posts or comments, please do not hesitate to report them so the moderator team can take them down.
– How come I can't post? or How come my post was deleted?
r/SafeSexPH utilizes auto-moderation tools, and these filters will automatically bar or remove posts and comments that are tagged as rule violators. While this system continues to be a great help in keeping the community safe and organized, it's not always perfect. If you believe your post or comment was barred or removed by mistake, let us know right away. Send us a Modmail message here, and we will assist you with these concerns!
There was a period of time where there was an overwhelming amount of very similar (practically identical) posts about whether certain sexual acts can result in pregnancy or not, and because of the similarity and number of these posts, community members have expressed concerns and displeasure with the matter. To combat this and encourage users to familiarize themselves with how bodies and conception work, we have these posts barred and redirected to our respective Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) posts, which can also be found pinned in the subreddit homepage.
Barred posts may be approved if found to be distinct in concern, in need of varying opinions, or in need of updating as time goes on. However, posts that violate our community rules and posting guidelines will be taken down, whether automatically or manually, and we have no choice but to implement a temporary or permanent ban to repeat violators depending on the severity of their violations.
– What are the different FAQ posts?
A Beginner's Guide to NOT GETTING PREGNANT – For concerns regarding: pregnancy prevention, tips for beginners, locally available contraceptive methods, how to access contraception in the Philippines
"Can I get pregnant if we...?" • SEX SCENARIOS & THEIR LEVELS OF RISK – For concerns regarding: how likely or unlikely pregnancy would be from doing specific sexual acts, if emergency contraception is necessary from doing specific sexual acts, what to do after
A Beginner's Guide on WHAT TO DO AFTER UNPROTECTED SEX – For concerns regarding: locally available emergency contraceptive methods, how to access emergency contraception in the Philippines, instructions and dosages for the Yuzpe method, what to do and expect after
– Are there other posts or pages that could help me?
Driver's Ed for the Sexual Superhighway: Navigating Consent – For concerns regarding: what consent is, how to identify true consent in yourself and your partner, what needs consent, misconceptions about consent, how to discuss consent with partner/s
Sexual Boundaries: How to Spot Sexual Coercion – Content warning: sexual abuse. In addition to the topic of consent, many unfortunately don't realize they have been sexually coerced or they themselves have been sexually coercing their partners. This type of abuse often goes overlooked, and we encourage all of our community members to learn about coercion and boundaries.
How Long Does It Take for STD Symptoms to Appear or Be Detected on a Test? – For concerns regarding: sexually transmitted infections and their respective incubation periods, required waiting time before testing for specific STIs, what type of tests are needed for different STIs, being asymptomatic, STI dormancy, what to do upon exposure
Bedsider Birth Control Comparison Tool – If you've read our Beginner's Guide to Not Getting Pregnant (wink wink) and you've got your mind set on certain contraceptive methods, this page is incredibly helpful at comparing and contrasting your options. Note: Because Bedsider is an American site, they have contraceptive methods on the page that are not available in the Philippines. As of January 2025, only male condoms, the hormonal IUD, the copper IUD, the arm implant, the oral contraceptive pill (birth control pills), the progestin-only shot, and the combined hormonal shot (Norifam) are widely available.
The Buddy System: Effectiveness Rates for Backing Up Your Birth Control with a Second Method – In addition to choosing contraceptive methods, Scarleteen lists the efficacy rates of using different contraceptives both on their own and in combination with other forms of protection.
MIMS Philippines Drug Database – An online database of information on medications available in the Philippines, including birth control pills and other contraceptive methods. If the prescribing information included in your contraceptive of choice is lost or unavailable to you, you can find a digital copy here.
Medscape, Drugs.com, or DrugBank's Interaction Checkers – A helpful tool in confirming any interactions between your current contraceptive method and any new or existing medication you may have to take alongside it.
Content warning: sexual abuse, assault, and harassment.
– I think I was sexually assaulted / harassed / abused. What do I do, where do I start, and what do I need to know?
Cosmopolitan GUIDE: Where To Go, What To Do After A Sexual Assault – A helpful, easy-to-follow step by step guide on what to do after being attacked. To report the assault, contact information will be listed below.
What Is Sexual Assault? – Identifying sexual assault, what makes an attack rape, different types of force that may be used in an attack, and squashing common misconceptions about rape and SA.
What Is Child Sexual Abuse? – Recognizing child sexual abuse, common perpetrators of CSA, and spotting warning signs in oneself and others.
What Is Incest? – Many cases of CSA involve incest. This page provides information on what incest is, and why it is difficult to discern sexual abuse from family members.
What Is Drug-Facilitated Sexual Assault? – Identifying drug-facilitated sexual assault, how this type of assault happens, which substances are commonly used for these attacks, signs of being drugged, and how to preserve evidence of the attack
Sexual Assault of Men and Boys – Dishearteningly, cases of sexual abuse and assault of men and boys tend to be overlooked, leading to a lack of support and validation of their traumatic experiences. This page provides information on common reactions and coping mechanisms in male survivors, as well as testimonials from other survivors.
– I just discovered someone I know was assaulted / harassed / abused. What can I do to help?
Tips for Talking with Survivors of Sexual Assault – Examples of language we can use to make survivors feel seen and heard, as well as how to provide continued support.
How To Put An End to Victim Blaming – Reframing the view of assault, why it happens, and who is responsible for it to be a proper ally to survivors of sexual assault and abuse.
Hi eveyone, I just want to know your insights. I'm off pills since April 1, when my period starts. I'm done with my 2 pack before I stopped. Is it okay if I go back again after 1 month of not taking it? Thank you so much!
I'm using lizelle pills for the last 2 months.
(30M) Just wondering why do I have this urge for someone to tell me what to do on video. Hehe
Any people here who uses trust condoms? Mine is trust ultra thin.
Not sure if this is the right reddit to ask but it’s so hard to find tampons in the Ph and I have an upcoming beach trip!! Thank you! so much
Hi! Been wanting to try it but idk where I can get my hands on one :( Any idea which store still sells? Is it worth trying when I'm using the blue play feel durex lube?
Thank you!
Hi, it's been about 6 months since I've last had sex. I've tested twice within the span of that timeline and everything has come back negative. I've had one close call in regards to one person in the time before but the tests that was associated with that person is negative again. Is it ok go back to having sex or getting oral?
Can genital warts inside the cervix be removed through cautery or laser? Or pag inside, kailangan na i-surgery? Thank you. Badly need answers I'm really feeling anxious na huhu
Any experience in fujibio hiv test kit? is it accurate? Share your experience thanks
Hi. I got my IUD inserted at Likhaan. Now I want to get it removed, do they offer that too?
Thanks.
hi! I wanna ask lang if u guys tried ordering na from this site (planbphilippines.ph) Thank you!
24 M bi, no time and money for professional help. Do you know a free support group for this? Tyia.
I'm considering changing our form of contraception from pills to implants. I've been on the pill for so long then tried depo shot for a while pero di hiyang and now I wanna try implants. Can you please share your experiences with using implants? And how was it if you also changed from pills to implants?
Since OVA isnt offering contraceptives now, is there any platforms like OVA available?
HI guys,
I just want to ask since my GF started taking Lady again after we did the deed last March 4 and as per her calendar app that tracks her menstrual cycle, she was already delayed by 1 day when we saw each other last tuesday. GF also had 1 pt after 10 days and it came out negative and she will take another at the end of this month when I told her to use both and that I will get her 2 again at the end of the month so that she can be at peace.
I just want to ask if taking Lady pills can cause menstrual cycle delays. Thanks in advance for those who will share their insights.
Edit: I forgot to mention that her last mens cycle was also delayed by almost 2 weeks and that she stopped taking her Lady pills for unknown reasons when her mens cycle was delayed.
Just curious if there are condom brands that can be used for blowjobs? Wherein the guy could still feel pleasure from the deed?
I took a chlamydia test 8 days after sex and the results came back negative. However, it was a urine test and I did pee before the test. Are the results accurate?
I've been a Yaz user for 4 months now. I just finished the last placebo pill yesterday and have started my period. Today is the first day of my new pack, which is day 1 of the active pills, but my partner came inside me. Am I safe? I have been taking it continuously for 4 months. Should I wait 7 days into the new pack before having unprotected intercourse? Thanks so much to those who respond!
Has any one of you stopped using depo and had unusual bleeding? I had my last shot last Sep 2024 and starter to have period again on Feb 15 lasted 7 days and had period again on Feb 27, 7 days duration again and I’m having period again today.
I have an appointment with an OB on Monday since thats the only available slot with my pref doctor.
Hello! I’m on pills and have had sex multiple times after the 7 days waiting time.
My partner came inside in two different days during sex.
The thing is, I take my pill every 5-9pm, I’m not consistent with the time because of my work. Is this okay? Should I be worried? Btw I take combo pills (trust) Ps. i make sure to take a pill daily, I’m on my third sugar pills right now.
I need help, I’m experiencing penile dischage and pain/tenderness in my testicle. I’ve experienced the same symptoms a year or two ago and it’s gonorrhea. I know it’s bad and I won’t do it again but i self medicated (doxycycline & amoxicillin) on two separate occasions for my symptoms now and the symptoms are still present.
Couple of questions:
Is it better to get tested first then go to a urologist or just go to a doctor directly (my previous diagnosis was done based on my symptoms and no testing was conducted)?
Where do I find cheap testing (I’m a student and I’m too embarrassed to ask my parents for money for treatment/testing)?
How much is testing for gonorrhea/chlamydia in Hi-Precision?