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Is pounding and generally rough sex harder to do with an avg sized penis? I'm (M) working with 5", can I still have a good sex session with a decently curvy woman? I've also got some extra weight on me with thicker thighs

Hello :) first of all I want to clarify I do use condoms even when it comes to oral sex; and I also make sure to use them correctly.

Yesterday I went to a sex club/playroom with my partner (M) and it went well; it wasn't the first time we went together to a playroom. I sucked him off and, as expected, people started gathering around us (which I don't mind at all; I actually quite enjoy it). At one point I also sucked off another man, who I deepthroated with a lot of enthusiasm. He also penetrated me roughly. All of this was practiced safely with the use of condoms and it was 100% consensual.

Thing is, I started feeling sick on my way home. My partner obviously was quite worried about it since he did see how rough the other man was with me. It was mostly just motion sickness. Today I woke up with a sore throat and a sore body; symptoms similar to when one gets the flu.

I was (am?) Concerned about it potentially being an infection since it's not impossible to get an STD even when wearing condoms; but after doing some research I also came to the conclusion that the reason to why I felt sick was likely the rough treatment I got from the other man.

My question is: is it likely I became infected with an STD, or are these symptoms normal considering the circumstances?

I feel like it's also important to mention I ate spicy noodles for dinner last night... I feel like it could contribute somehow lol. Or maybe it is the flu. Either way, I will be checking it just in case.

Thank you :)

I've been feeling a dip in my sex drive lately and would prefer to explore natural options before considering medication. Would love to hear what’s worked for others—whether it's lifestyle changes, diet, exercise, or even specific supplements. Open to both male and female perspectives!

Last night, I had one of - if not the singular - best orgasms I've ever had. Unfortunately, I ejaculated so hard that my testicles were killing me for about 20 minutes (I felt it as soon as I started to cum). I'm not sure if it was because of how much fluid there was or what, but I want to make sure this isn't going to be a problem in the future

Before I even touched her I had a condom on, the entire time she is on top of me while I am playing down. After a little bit I go soft but never feel an orgasm. I take the condom off and throw it away and there is a very thin milky/clear liquid covered the insides of the condom. I never orgasmed and by the amount and thickness of the liquid in the condom I think it’s probably precum. I am scared that maybe it wasn’t just precum and it leaked out even though I never felt an orgasm. After taking the condom off I fingered her and that is also someting I am worried about, it wasn’t immediately and there was a pause in between. She is not on birth control and we were using skyn latex free condoms. What is my risk?? I am so tweaked about this

My wife and I have been together for 5 years and married for 2, lately we've been talking about having a third in bed. Both of us are really turned on by the idea of sharing a woman, however were having some trouble making this fantasy real life. First off we don't know where to find a third we are located in Columbusohio,second should we book a hotel room for the night to have the threesome at. And the most important question, is it rude to ask for a STD test prior to having it, my wife and I would get tested and provide the test results. My wife and I have been vary open and discussed having a third in bed. Any advice/information is greatly appreciated

My gf was giving me a bj the other day and she wasn’t phenomenal at but she said she wants to get better at it. Any tips so I can help her help me?

My wife has it and I feel horrible for her. Biggest reason is it seems active a lot and I'm scared to give her oral sex because of it. I really miss doing this with her / for her and it's so unfair because she's one of the kindest and sweetest women ever. I mean I am right correct - probably shouldn't do oral until she's cured of this? regular sex is pretty normal as long as she's not in a big flare.

My girlfriend loves the way I use foreplay already, but there's always room for improvement and I want to please her as much as possible so please give me any feedback at all on advanced techniques or ideas I could incorporate into foreplay.

Usually what I do is

Massage. Move my way down her back and take off her pants. Lick her back and butt. Play with her clit before I flip her over and make out. Eat her out. Finger her before I put it in.

Throughout the whole process I run my hands along her as well and am really touchy.

Hello! I'm having some issues and I don't know where to ask this question.

I'm 22(m) and I have an extremely high craving for sex, but the thought of having is not the greatest, it makes me feel sick as I don't want to. I guess the real question is what is going on? Why do I feel a need for sex, but I don't want it.

I’ve (f22) always thought it was a little weird that whenever I would get turned on, I would get a runny nose or need to sneeze. I brushed it off for the past 10~ years everytime it happend, because I just assumed my head gets hot or something.

Well, after having sex twice in a row today, my nose wouldn’t stop running. I usually go to clean myself aftewards, since we do it unprotected and at the same time I have to blow my entire nose because it’s so runny. It sounds super gross, but it’s almost funny at this point. It happens mostly in doggy style (which is my favorite), because my head is kinda down.

I googled what my issue might be and found out that I have ’honeymoon rhinitis’. Just like the labia has erectile tissue which builds up blood and causes arousal, I have it in my nose too. My nose is basically getting extremely turned on when in my favoritr sex position.

Is this gross? Should I try to fix it somehow or live on with it?

How do I ask a girl to come over for sex or what's the best way?

So I (21m) have been playing with my butt for almost a year however in the past 2 months or so I’ve really started to get more into it. With that I’ve been using a hairbrush to masturbate since I don’t have any toys and while this masturbation feels incredible I just can’t cum from it? Idk why because I feel even better than when I just jerk off but I just can’t cum, so I’m looking to see if anyone else suffers with this same problem and if there’s a way to help me out.

Hi all! I recently discovered that in the 8.5 years my husband and I've been together, I haven't sent him any spicy pics. We have a baby, so I've been feeling a little frumpy and not as sexy as I was when i was younger. So, any advice on how to take nudes?

We are hanging out more often than not, like 4 or 5 days each week, and even on consecutive days well gk 2 3 sometimes 4 times each day. That's how many times we have sessions until I finish. Is it normal for my dick head and surrounding under the head to be super red/raw and tender to the touch? We use a water based ky lube that is amazing in the moment but I'm thinking it's what leading to the chaffing to begin with.

Also my partner (27f) has an autoimmune disease among others so we have to be careful about what we try/ possible side effects and the like.

Hey everyone, So I (27M) consider myself pretty sexually open and down to try most things. My girlfriend (24F) on the other hand is more reserved when it comes to sex — not because she’s shy, but more due to cultural upbringing and maybe some internalized “rules” around what’s okay and what’s not. (She came into the U.S at the age 19)

We’re in a committed relationship, and I respect her 100%, but sometimes I feel like there’s this wall between us sexually. I never want to make her uncomfortable or pressure her into anything, but I’d love to explore more with her — slowly, safely, and with full consent.

So Reddit… How do I encourage openness without being pushy? Have any of you helped a partner explore their sexuality when they were raised with a more strict/cultural view on it? Any books, techniques, or conversations that helped?

Thanks in advance. Keep it respectful please.

Looking for a good edible massage oil that smells and tastes nice..I've heard coconut oil is good. Any affordable and good options?

What are some ways that you find sex to be even more pleasurable? For instance listing to Lofi chill in headphones, while wearing a sleep eye mask, makes a massage feel incredible. Really want to add to my life. Some of the things (milking) my partner is not in to?

maybe it’s pain-stakingly obvious that i’m a virgin but saw a tiktok today that claims that chubbier/bigger girls feel better during sex (assuming PIV but if it applies to oral or other things lmk). thus i was wondering if any dudes can corroborate this statement or if i’m just extremely gullible

Has anyone who’s had a partner that experienced sexual trauma or psychological issues that prevent them from getting in the mood used a sex surrogate therapist? I’m torn on the idea of it because I don’t like the idea of another person sensually touching my partner but there are some traumas we need to work through to improve our sex life. Are surrogates available in the US? What was your experience and did it help?

any tips while on top tips to ride it and feel something

I learned that the prostate can vary in size, likely due to temperature (the water was cold this time) and I managed to stick two fingers one inch deep and one finger 2.7 inches, could someone better explain the best way to stimulate my prostate? I'm guessing I'm still nervous and that's why it still isn't feeling good, but I'm starting to get used to the feeling (to me it feels like I need to poop)

F18. I generally take at least an hour while masturbating, I don't use any toys and only rub my clit. During sex we can keep going for around 2 hours and I still can't finish, is there anything that can help make me more sensitive? It could be a process like edging or just taking a break (I don't actually know if those work) or maybe something to use like a specific lube or aphrodisiacs? I'm happy to answer more questions in the replies

If I'm honest guys I'm really just interested in the %'s of what makes women orgasm/cum (and the difference between the two if there is one?)

I'm also really interested on getting some responses on whether the size of a penis links directly to making a woman orgasm from penetration or not ie is it easier to reach orgasm the bigger it is until it's too big?

Tips on how to start easy would be helpful! I don't wanna end up gagging in front of him making him think im not liking it