r/smalldickproblems

Kinda just processing it. I'm 27 she's 33 and she has carried my awful stigma of my small D. Ever since she first saw it she didnt care and took good care of me In bed. I kinda knew something was off since in the last two years we've only had sex 5 times and she never gets off. I always eat her out but i could tell it wasnt satisfying her yet she told me she loved me. She's literally sleeping right now. I noticed tonight watching TLOS S2 she kept going on her phone. Initially I rubbed it off but once she went into the bathroom I could hear what sounded like a phone call. I tried to just let it go but could not and once she fell asleep her phone kept lighting up and I checked. Not only has she made fun of my penis to her sister and mother she has Tinder and Hinge installed. On Tinder some dude named Ty in ATL has been fucking her for what looks like at least the last 2 years AND I DIDN'T FUCKING NOTICE. EVERY GIRLS NIGHT WAS HER FUCKING HIM. In the chat you can see him mentioning phone calls but I couldn't find anything in her messages only on the Tinder Chat. She literally told this Dude how amazing his BBC feels and I literally cried and got FUCKING disgusted reading her descriptions of their very active sex life. I won't repeat what I read but she clearly loves his penis and said I'm just a provider whole he's the Sex object. Just got my VA Benefits cut and now this shit.

So there is this one girl that wanted to hookup with me.

We know each other for 4 months now. I told her that im kind of insecure that i might fail in bed and that im not enough. I didn‘t even told her my size or what so ever. But i guess that was enough to turn her of. Since then she only texted me very dry and said that if im insecure about it then this is a bad idea because she don‘t want to hurt me and my feelings.

So i guess for the future (if that wasn‘t my last chance) i will shut the hell up about my shit. Or maby that right there just saved me from something worse idk.

Just wanted to share this with you guys. Any similar experiences?

What size is considered small?

I think I started running outta steam after the last 20 Dms, looking for fun and only getting disappointed and dissatisfied, it’s all loops back to size, I’ve had them dripping and begging for me to show then the second I send the pic “oh it’s cute” or “…nice” I can practically hear them drying up on the other side, I think it’s time to pack it up boys, going back to watching porn might be my only option left 😞

So the FWB 35F and I 28M had a lot to talk about on the phone after our previous encounter on my previous post, at first she’s started texting things “sorry” and vaguely open “hope your ok” but last night right before 11pm she fired back by calling me (probably cause I was bowing out slowly and just not messaging as much) outta the blue catching my off guard, I answered and boy howdy did I wish I didn’t, first thing that happened was she started off quiet, just a “hey” with what sounded like a sniffle at the end, being the soft squishy guy I am I asked immediately if she was ok, then the flood gates of emotion spilled out in a tsunami wave of bi polar, apparently her ex bf right before chatting with me was small too, not as small but small enough that he had to find the wrong ways to compensate, apparently he was aggressive to the point of boundary breaking abuse, she said that she was concerned that because I was even smaller that she assumed I’d try and force myself on her or hurt her or something, blaming it on a trauma response, pushing me away and insulting me in an attempt to not want me to want her so she wouldn’t get hurt, she drank even more after I left and apparently chatted with her girlfriends about it, (ladies for the love of all things holy please stop doing that, it’s rough enough as it is out here) surprisingly the girlfriends had my back here saying that “yeah he’s small, but the fact that he stopped and left after that means he wasn’t trying to hurt you” to which she added her own bias saying guys like me have to abuse the girls the fuck just to feel something during, to feel like a man, after listening to her ramble on about this for a good 5 minutes laying out the details I cut her off and asked her “ok so why are you calling me?” She paused and said “I just.. needed get it all out” I turned around and said “sounds like to me you might need some therapy there, not only did you mock me, but you attempted to label me as abusive based off trauma that had nothing to do with me, I’m sorry that’s something you went thru and you didn’t deserve that kinda treatment, but I didn’t deserve your bias in assuming I was gunna hurt you and even more not deserving of your insults about my size and insecurities, I hope you got out everything you needed” then I hung up and threw my phone aside, scratching my head with frustration, tell me guys was I wrong for saying that last part.

How do you stop having this desire? It’s too painful. I’m too tired. I can’t keep going. The little hope I had has disappeared. Life feels dull. I see no color in life. It’s only black and white.

I have always struggled with self esteem issues. You can guess the reason why that is. I have always known I wasn't big. Sure enough when I measured my dick it was just about 5 inches. Yes, I know people on reddit love telling people 5 inches is average when in reality no one gives a fuck about the average. You think a girl is more likely to be ok with a small dick just because you tell her on google it says you are average. Not to mention the average size is like 5.2 so 5 inches is slightly below average.

Because of these self esteem issues I had never had a girlfriend before. Trying to approach anyone sounded impossible for me. Fortunately for me, I got lucky. I met this girl 2 years ago through some friends. I liked her but of course never would have had the courage to initiate anything. I'm kinda ashamed to admit she had to do the approaching at first. I'm not going to make this post too long so after talking and going on dates for about a month we started dating.

She is the one that made me feel like maybe I'm not completely worthless as a man just because I have a small dick. Heck, even in a moment of vulnerability I told her about my insecurities. Now, looking back I shouldn't have. I realize now that she was just pretending or just telling me what I wanted to hear. She told me it didn't matter and you know that bullshit that is not the dick but the person attached to it. Not those same words but the main idea.

Well, what happened a week ago taught me again how even though they tell you "it doesn't matter" it does matter and they don't even believe that. So, last week we got into an argument. We've had some small arguments before but nothing too bad but this one did feel a little more serious.

And she brought up my size during our argument because of course she did, out of fucking nowhere. The worst part is that it came from her. From the person who told me that "it didn't matter". She apologized of course the next day but I don't believe her anymore. And I feel like my insecurities and self-esteem issues have returned. They never had truly left. Sometimes I would have down days wishing I was bigger or be bothered when I saw a joke or something about small dicks but now it has returned in full force.

The other day while she was sleeping, I had a dangerous thought. I thought about going through her conversation with her best friends and looking to see if she had said something about my dick in the past. I feel disgusted for even considering this but it has made me realize if its for the best to break up with her. I just don't feel like I can ever have sex with her again. She can deny it but I know what she really thinks about me. I feel like I'm back to when I was a virgin and scared to even be naked in front of her. Since, that day we haven't had sex or even taken a shower together and to be honest I don't want to.

I'm having so many thoughts right now about hurting myself. I want it to stop. I know I shouldn't feel this way after a single comment. But I feel so betrayed right now. Its funny because I have always known I was small so it shouldn't bother me that she said it but it does. It really does.

I'm an 18 year old male and I feel like my penis size is fluctuating. My penis would be big and girthy one day and after a couple days I notice my size changes and my erection quality isn't the same as a couple days before. This is an endless cycle and I don't know why it's happening. Could I get some advice on how to maintain my erection quality?

(21m) So having a 2-inch erect with a disappointing girth made me realize that I'm excluded in the dating scene and have absolutely no chance of having a family. I'm fairly an attractive guy with good hobbies like playing instruments and sports. Some girls show interest in me, but I just ignore it all because I don't want to disappoint them with this problem of mine. But I just have one question: how do the guys with a similar situation cope? Like, what's the point of living anymore if we can't get to experience procreation or sex in general like an average guy would do?

So I (18M) am in my first relationship with my gf (20F) since before her I was genuinely too shy to even talk to women. Things have been going really well with her and she’s super sweet and always compliments me and my looks etc, so I felt comfortable to be sexual with her. I’d already kind of warned her I’m not the biggest down there and she just laughed and said ‘literally anything around like 6 inches feels great I don’t need a huge dick’.

I’m just over 3 inches hard so hearing this was hurtful obviously but I moved past it and just hoped it was a case of ‘girl inches’.

Last week we tried to have sex for the first time and when I pulled it out she was noticeably disappointed but didn’t say anything and just looked at me and smiled. We couldn’t actually have sex that time since I came early and every time since then I’ve cum within a minute or so.

She says she doesn’t mind my size or stamina and she still enjoys our ‘sex’ but obviously this is just a white lie. She makes little comments about it which are meant as a joke but some of them do hurt especially when she’s calls it her ‘little guy’. And recently she’s been talking about introducing a dildo for her when we have sex - obviously I feel bad I can’t please her but I think asking for a dildo is really disrespectful but then I also would hate to leave her. She’s the first woman who’s ever paid attention to me and I think I love her.

Any advice is really appreciated, thanks guys 😞

I couldn't watch porn anymore without feeling suicidal, so I tried erotica. Guess what? They all fucking write about either men having "big, girthy cocks" or women whining and mocking small dicked men. I confronted the mods asking them to do something about this. Their response was banning and muting me with a message talking about it being my fucking fault for looking at that content and that I shouldn't lash out because of expectations not being met from people. Such a fucking shit, cheap response.

Next time a woman says she's body shamed I'll just reply with the same I guess? Your fault for interacting with those kind of people and expecting people to respect your faulted body :shrugs: bet I'll be fucking publicly hanged for that. I am so fucking done with people, I'm fucking done with this world. I will fucking end it at this point since I literally lost all will to deal with people. Life is literally a retarded gamble game, you either win at birth, or you're nudged and pushes off a cliff for the rest of it. Just start implementing eugenics you fucking monkeys, abort when your kid got ugly / small / weak genes, so he won't fucking be miserable for the rest of his life. Save souls from being tormented, have mercy...

Hello guys,

Just wanted to know if you guys have something to do or watch when you start spiraling? Maybe an activity or mantra or anything? The only advice my therapist could give me was to push through the pain or wait for the meds to kick in. Usually that works during my work and college days since I’m out of the house the whole day, but as soon as I get home or the weekend arrives my head starts making me miserable, sometimes getting a little bit drunk or high until I get sleep works fine, but maybe I should stopped doing that because last week I had a test for a class and I was still feeling high af in the morning, although, I did good anyways, but I need to stop that either way because combining drugs and alcohol with SSRIs can’t be good.

I think it is because I’m scared of being alone forever which is weird because I accepted that a long time ago and made peace with that fact, but maybe is another thing? I don’t know, any advice is good or if you guys can share what you guys do in these situations would be good as well. Thank you

How bad is it compared to other unattractive traits?

I should’ve seen this one coming, after weeks of flirty calls and naughty chats we finally met in person at her place, two glasses of wine and a brief make out session later the moment comes to strip and explore, she was excited and slightly buzzed resorting to strip me down first in her thirst, I cleaned, scrubbed and shaved down there and even after all that, she pulled down my boxers to reveal my half hard cock and gave that look a lot of us have gotten, not neutral, not even just disappointed, she was disgusted… literally like my lack of inches was somehow insulting her family. “Is that it?” Those words in the most demeaning tone I’ve ever heard in my life, I didn’t say a word i dramatically just put my hands up like a criminal not wanting to get shot by the police, backed up to put my shorts back on, grabbed my keys and my take out and drove home choking back violently angry screams anguish and depression, didn’t block her or anything just went radio silent, why man why?

Is there any change in a woman’s body language after first seeing your penis? Is there any key words that a woman says that means she might think you are small? I need to know what to look out for.

How do extremely ugly guys pull some pretty women. I always hear “they’re confident”, “they’re funny”, etc. They may be all of that, but so are many people. I think it has to a lot to do with the sex. If the sex is good, someone will stay, no matter how toxic the relationship might be.

I have girl friends who get annoyed of their boyfriend but stay for the sex. My best friend dated an asshole for 5 years but stayed for the sex. I hooked up with a girl who had just left her boyfriend, I could tell I wasn’t enough and she went back to him. My conclusion is that they all have big dicks, which equals good sex, which equals obsession. (Big dicks are becoming the average, which means big dicks are procreating, no matter the looks or personality)

Sure, I am not saying every unattractive man is an asshole, or that every ugly guy is packing, or that big guys are automatically good at sex. I’m just saying that women will ignore red flags, or even their own preferences for good sex and that’s where i’ll never compete.

At this point the feel like it’s the only thing I can do there are also dating apps where you can sort after sexuality and asexual is one of them. I’ll probably be a little miserable but at least I won’t be alone

For the longest time I haven’t been able to use urinals. I just can’t pee. I can only use a stall and sometimes others being in the bathroom causes anxiety and I can’t pee.

I’m not sure if this is small penis related. Does anyone else suffer from this?

Except for the remainder on here I’ve finally managed to delete all my nudes off my ex’s profiles and they told me they had no pics of me left, I removed my nudes from every other site, I honestly don’t know how to feel, I’ve learned my Lesson since being bodyshamed by every other ex, don’t send pics of that area even if they beg 👍

Is anyone here from the uk and can you share your experience with women. I’m 22 and I want to start getting out there but I’m scared because of my size. I’m 4.5 inches in length and 4 inches in girth.

Positive and negative experiences please

Pencil dick is described as any girth under 3.5 I’m at 2.7 myself and I don’t think I’ll have sex in my life tbh

Girl I’ve been talking too for a couple weeks now just recently dropped a preference (a lot more subtle then expected) but basically she was eating a subway sandwich and said she got a six inch sub followed up with a flirty side comment about it being “the perfect sized…sub” with several flirty emojis following. She pressed on it for a hot minute almost trying to get me to agree although we both know she’s not talking about sandwich’s, needless to say i curved the comment and tried changing the subject and ended Ho giving short messages and responses for the rest of the day, I think she’s feeling like she did something wrong, she genuinely likes me but after that comment I’ve lost attraction, how do I navigate this, should I friendzone her?

i have a 3.5 hard dick that’s not girthy at all, basically my finger. i’m going to college soon and everyone says hookup culture is the biggest thing and i’m scared it’s gonna get around that i have a small dick and i’m not gonna make any friends or get a girlfriend.

how do you cope with stuff like this?

I have an extremely thin dick (2.7 inches in girth) so sex is pretty much impossible and dating is of the table. Yet I still crave intimacy I still crave love. My biggest wish in life would be to have sex with a girl that I love but I know that that’s not a possibility in my case. I’ll most likely be alone forever even though I really don’t want to.