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10 + 10 = 20. Even though it's explicitly stated in the sidebar rules, we get a number of messages in the modmail everyday from people asking why they cannot post. If you have 100 post karma but only 1 comment karma, you will not be able to post. If you have 20 comment karma but only 1 post karma, you will not be able to post. No, we will not manually approve your post even if you message the modmail to claim you're a real person and not a bot. It's that simple, folks.
A few months ago we implemented some changes to reduce the amount of scam and spam that we experience here at SoCalR4R. So far, it has worked to great success and we continue to put in effort to reduce nefarious actors in the community.
The change we implemented was the use of Reddit's Contributor Quality Score. This is a user classification designed by Reddit that was established to identify potential spammers or Redditors less likely to contribute positively on Reddit. Every account is assigned a CQS based on a host of signals including past actions taken on a Redditor's account, network and location signals, and steps a Redditor has taken to secure their account.
Currently, our CQS threshold is set to: MODERATE
If you're not having issues posting, then you're in good standing, but if you can't seem to post, this is likely the issue and automod will tell you as such. The biggest takeaway of not meeting our requirement is that you need to be more active throughout Reddit to improve your score, meaning just using a throwaway won't necessarily suffice. While annoying, this, in theory, means the quality of users posting will go up.
Please know that scammers may find a way around this so always be cognizant of posts and do your due diligence when vetting a post and a user's profile. A new thing scammers are doing are posting fake verified pics on their account to pretend they're real when they're just trying to scam you. Reporting posts helps significantly while commenting on posts, and therefore promoting scam posts, does not and can have consequences of their own.
If you have questions regarding CQS, you can check Reddit's Wiki article:
https://support.reddithelp.com/hc/en-us/articles/19023371170196-What-is-the-Contributor-Quality-Score
If you're curious what your account CQS is, log into that account and visit r/WhatIsMyCQS.
hi and welcome to Bangkok! heading down from the bay in early june for the BN show and putting the feelers out now to see if anyone is interested in making a new friend & tagging along... may or may not have an extra ticket for the right person. hard maybe.
would be super coooool to find an actual fan of the band who's local to the area to hang out some combination of before / during / after the show with. you can show me the cool, locally loved spots.
me: 31, happily married & ethically non-monogamous, dog and cat mom, into dark and sarcastic humor and alll the spooky shit, beer drinker and cannabis connoisseur, occasional film photographer, and relatively chill and open minded human. physically I'm a cute, thick white girl with tattoos.
you: females to the front of the line! but alas, someone aged 30-40ish. if you're a man, preferably married / partnered and most preferably also ENM. a real fan of the band. clean and chill - no hard drugs or drama.
looking for a mostly platonic situation with perhaps a little bit of buzzed making out before and after you show me your favorite hole-in-the-wall food spot. to test your reading and band comprehension, dm me three to five of your favorite song titles by aforementioned band. bonus points if you send a photo of yourself. thanks for playing!
please note: my husband will be reviewing messages with me & will also be involved in making sure you're not a creep, so pls be prepared to verify you're legit. looking to chat a bunch between now and then so we're not total strangers if / when we meet.
space cadet, pull out.
If you don't live around L.A., please show why we should get to know each other. I'm a healthy, handsome, interesting, creative, artistic, attractive (SWM) single white male seeking a kind, curious, intelligent, faithful, younger lady I find attractive for romance, who is open to learn what we both enjoy, what we find interesting, stimulating, funny, entertaining and like learning together. Seeing if we can have friendship with chemistry for kissing, intoxicating loving, satisfying your deepest desires, feeling the best pleasures possible. Making my good girl happy and makes me happy, so I've developed the skills to do that. As lustful as I may seem, I don't seek casual stuff, because it's risky, can feel empty and is disrespectful, like saying someone isn't worthy of more. I seek my misses to devote my kisses, my mind and body, caring, sharing, exploring, walks, talks, holding hands, hugs, cuddles, kisses, making out, making love, all day and night, where pleasing is our passion, giving each other mutual mind-body bliss. Why settle for less than a partner who loves to please you, the most satisfying lover, even long-term, if we know it's right. I want us to look forward to spending time together, learning, sharing mind-expanding experiences, including flirty fun in and out of the bedroom. I'd like us to find healthy activities together, exercising, hiking, meditations, bonding, cooking, making smoothies, open to try adding in vodka for extra buzz. I'd be curious to try home spa treatments together, skin care regimens, face masks-slugging, even trying body-slugging using coconut oil, edible oils, natural lotion, something to moisturize, lubricate, to feel our bodies sliding on each other. I have soft skin and want to feel yours with massages head to toes, partner stretching, workouts, maybe light wrestling, fore-playing around. I want us to enjoy sharing slower sexy arousing pleasures, with verbal and physical foreplay, edging, teasing, touching, kissing, giving goosebumps, helping circulation and fluids flowing, priming us for more fun.
I'm mostly mellow, chill, having a positive outlook, a dry of humor with snarky wit and puns. I'm in good shape, with defined abs/v-lines, attractive facial features, grey blue eyes, a wavy full head of hair and none on my back. I have no children, no ex-wife, kind of edgy artist musician looks that cleans up well. I like to exercise regularly. I want to share in stimulating, creative experiences, appreciation of nature, cultures, arts and architecture around Los Angeles and SoCal. I like to be very affectionate with my lady, while indoors and out, where and when possible for hours at a time, fully satisfying each other. I can take charge, teaching, being patient, learning your favorite things, and I can also switch roles, letting you be in control of my pleasures. I'm open to some soft kinks, being rough yet romantic, nipple breast play, suckling sessions, ANR, CNC, free-use, sexy praise to naughty talk, safe creampies, filling my lady with my sexy love, whatever my lover enjoys. I go for slim petite with real curves especially T&A, up to a very healthy, fuller figure, pinup model type, with other sexy features I'll explain if we chat. I like long to short hair styles, straight to wavy-curly. I like eyeliner at times, but I'd like you to be comfortable wearing little to no makeup around me, and not into the lip-injected trend, or any surgically enhanced parts.
Hi, I have a tickling fetish and a foot fetish. I’m looking for women who’d be interested in trying getting tickled, possibly while tied. Also interested in couples where I or we tickle your gf/wife. Also open to tickling two girl friends. Open to switching with women. No single men please.
Feel free to ask me anything, and me know if you’re interested!
Hiii! I’m Rosco! I’m 20 and am a 6’7 football player. Looking caring and passionate sex. Down for link or fwb. Dm if interested!
Hi my name is James I’m a 26 year old amateur photographer in Hollywood. I’ve been shooting and developing my own 35mm for about 5 years now and am almost at my 10,000 photo mark.
I’m currently starting two different projects, both untitled but both with the intent of capturing personal intimate human moments while also making you feel sexy and gorgeous. The first being a series of portraits of people showering and the second being a series of portraits while the subject takes nude selfies of themselves.
I have other toys such as gags and whips we could always freestyle in any direction soft or hard as well. Our collaboration doesn’t have to be sexual in nature but who doesn’t love sex?
Looking for mostly women but am open to select couples and single guys. Obviously must be comfortable being photographed nude. I can host but don’t mind going to your place as well, a new space always inspires creativity. Drug and alcohol friendly.
Please reach out with any questions and put an emoji in your message so I know you read all this. I look forward to hearing from you hotties. Work samples available on my page. Thank you!
29m / 5’7 / 8” / fit / single / pics on profile. Can host or travel.
Looking for somebody in their 20s or 30s. Open to something consistent, kinkplay / fantasies, or just a good time with somebody im attracted to & connect with.
Send details / pics. bring good energy & ladies only
34M Asian guy here, single, 5'10", fit, and clean with recent tests. Steady career as healthcare professional living the good life. just looking for drama free fun, open to more if it happens. I'm a huge fan of receiving head. Enjoy discreet car play but can host as well in central SD. Please message me if interested ideally with a pic and I'll return with my own. If you'd like to chat first happy to do that as well.
Offering a special erotic massage experience for women. Through previous partners and friends, I've come to learn that time and time again, women are shortchanged when it comes to sex and pleasure. Whether it's the pressure to be 'performative,' or your male partner not taking the time to learn your body. If you have struggled to orgasm, or don't feel in touch with your body - I can help with that. As a pleasure dom, this is my main kink so I benefit from it too! I set up my space with a massage table, candles, and a music playlist to enhance the vibe. I'll use coconut oil, my hands, mouth, a wand vibrator, and lots of tease, body worship, ear whispering, and edging to bring you some of the best orgasms you've ever had.
I can host near Beverly Hills. I have an optional blindfold, restraints, and a harness if you're into any of that.
Me: 5'8, fit, (body pic in profile), emphasize personal hygiene, experienced, actually know how to communicate, respectful of boundaries, test regularly.
You: Please be 18+, fit, clean.
Please message me with your age, height, location, a body pic, and favorite color so I know you read the whole post- Thanks!
41M #San Diego, CA or Boston, MA looking for an age gap or breeding partner for now in SD or Boston next week.
I'll be traveling to Boston for work soon, and wanted to see who might be around for breeding, or just a fun night(s) together.
A little about me, white, bwc, and a nice dad bod. I love a good cocktail, and I want to make sure you're always put first.
Id love to get you dinner, or coffee, and then we can spend every night in my hotel enjoying the process. I prefer younger than me.
Looking for attractive Asian wife/gf for cuck situation. Couples must both be Asian!
[EAST ASIAN PREFERRED] [Chinese, Korean, Japanese, etc.]
Me: 6'4" tall, Athletic, Attractive, Educated, Clean, Experienced, and over 7.5"
Please send stats at least 1 pic for quicker response
First thing to understand. You're dark.
I'm dark too.
Me and you? We're not like other people. It's hard for us to open up. Especially our sexual selves. Not many people understand.
You're jealous of people who can be sexually open, sexually liberated. For you, your sexual self is something you're ashamed of. Something you want to hide. Whether it's because of upbringing. Or whether because the porn, fantasies, and erotica you have are extreme...it's something you don't want even your friends to find out.
If I name a kink you've probably thought about it. Yet you are yet to explore it. I'm talking about things at night. Maybe a window opening that shouldn't....or someone sneaking into your room that shouldn't....someone who should know better. Someone even close to you. And who starts to play with you when you're asleep.
Or maybe you've fantasised about someone you shouldn't. You squeeze your legs at the thought of a family member, or a teacher, or a family friend, or a neighbour.
And I'm being very light and tame here. I know you're more corrupt than this.
Understand something: this is not going to be a quick thing. This is going to be something where we get to know one another. Where I take your innocence on a journey of corruption. Where I get to use you as my plaything, and you enjoy it.
You must be into older confident men to work. And you must enjoy being slightly submissive and taking instructions. This will be sexual, but it will also be a psychological journey.
Only if you want your innocence corrupted should you reply.
Im looking for a shy girl who wants to get fucked but is comfortable getting to know each other first and wants to take things a bit slow. It can be either at my place or yours but I can get us hotels. Lets keep things low, I know its hard to find a fuck buddy without wanting to give out too much information so lets only do so if we know we're compatible. I give amazing oral, guaranteed to cum and if you're down to get your brains fucked after, ill be balls deep in you. Hmu
Hiya! I’m located the Bay Area, 33 years old single Asian male, 5’9 and 140 lbs, fit and active. I work in R&D, and outside of work, I live a pretty healthy lifestyle with cooking, running, cycling being my main hobbies, and just like to be active in general. Recently started keeping houseplants as a new hobby and it's been a lot of fun as well!
I'll be taking a much-needed solo trip and driving from the Bay Area to San Diego starting this weekend. I'll mostly be cycling and some hiking on the coast. I'm planning for a few days in and near SLO/Santa Barbara, a few days in LA, and then San Diego before heading back. Very flexible schedule since I'll be solo. I'll be on the road from April 19th to April 26th and I may extend a few more days if I don't feel like going back to work after a week haha.
I'm interested in meeting up and chatting with locals to learn about the areas I visit. And obviously I'd be open to sex too, if we get along well and are mutually attracted, but no pressure. Ideally, we'd meet up for coffee/lunch or a walk in public space, and we'll go from there :)
No strong preference on race or ethnicity. I'm clean, DDF, practice safe sex, and expect the same. Shoot me a message if you're interested! Happy to chat a bit before my trip and get to know each other a bit.
SFW pic: https://imgur.com/a/x3r1MTF
Looking to meet a Fireman or Cop for some fun. Open to ongoing.
meet me for a coffee or drink first? or come over after work, I host. ;)
No drugs or STDs here for same. Hmu or send your telegram/kik user
Single and celibate but I’ve gotten to a point where I’m eyeing every man out for a jog and contemplating running them down…jk. Hoping I can find a solution on Reddit.
Me: 5’3, black, chubby (175lbs), can’t host.
Preference: 26-40 yo, can host, resides in Orange County, has pulse, in decent shape (or at least willing to wear hoochie daddy shorts). No 8”+ warriors please (I’m trying to get back on the horse not ride it).
Thanks for reading.
Hey there, I’m hoping to meet a woman (or couple) who’s down for fun, good conversation, and exploring intimacy in a way that feels natural and enjoyable for both of us. I'm not into just hooking up. I value the “friend” in friends with benefits and want something where we actually connect. I’m also new-ish to Long Beach, so it’d be great to get to know some locals!
I’m a pretty chill guy who loves hiking, concerts, travel, pottery, cooking, and design. I enjoy quiet nights as much as I enjoy a night out with close friends. In the bedroom, I’m open-minded and love exploring new things, as long as it’s all about mutual comfort and trust.
More about me: 32, Black/Asian, INFP, fit, 7.5", heteroflexible, 420-friendly, goes to therapy. I’ve got my own place, and can host, travel, or meet wherever works best.
If this sounds like something you're interested in, let’s get to know each other and see where things go!
Nerdy, witty, and here to threaten you with a healthy relationship 🔫
I'm 32, male, 181lb, 6'0", Southeast Asian, average build. A professional engineer by day and a food dispenser for my cat by night. A bit of a homebody and night owl so I don't often get the chance to meet people, so giving reddit a go. Dating apps are just... no.
I currently live on my own and my two big hobbies are anime and videogames. Currently obsessed with FFXIV, Honkai: Star Rail, and Hololive lol. Other hobbies being sleeping, cooking, visiting new coffee shops, trying new foods, mountain biking, and other attempts at exercising to stay in shape. I only ask that you aren't overweight yourself.
Let's chat about our passions and hobbies or let me see how many times I can make you laugh. We don't have to like all the same things, tell me what you're into! Would love a genuine connection that could lead to long term dating but I'm open for anything.
I'm a boudoir photographer, and I'm also doing an artistic series of casual nude photography for my portfolio. I’m seeking women or couples who would be open to collaborating, regardless of modeling experience. You’ll receive high-quality, edited images after the shoot.
Open to all body types and ethnicities. Available concepts include beach, nature, urban, and lifestyle. I’ve already done a few of these shoots and am happy to share samples.
If this interests you or you have any questions, please reach out!
Whether you are shy and this is your first time with an older guy or you’ve done it before, be a good girl (please be 18 or over) and say hi!
Even if you’re shy or nervous, I’d love to gently teach you and mentor you.
I’m white, 6’1” weigh 195 lbs and I have brown hair and brown eyes. I’m also looking to actually meet and not just talk online.
As far as SFW interests, I enjoy the beach, swimming, paddleboarding, hiking, camping, traveling, hockey, skiing, and reading.
As far as NSFW interests, ask me…
I am looking for a girl to pull up next to me in a parking lot/any private area and reach through my window and jerk me off. You can even just watch if you want. You can talk dirty to me about how disgusting it is and I’ll talk back or you can be quiet and just watch and enjoy. Really open to whatever fantasy you may have. Message me and I can send pics too. !Unlock
Will be in Los Angeles 9th-12th. Looking for some fun while I’m there. I am straight so men no need to apply. I can show what I look like and more pics in DMs. Would like you to do the same if interested lmk
Hello redditors! I’m looking to find someone within a reasonable distance (Orange County, Long Beach, Los Angeles, South Bay, etc.) for casual fun, or an ongoing friend with benefits/sneaky link. Down to meet up once in a while, whenever we can if our schedules match free time. Who doesn't miss cuddles, intimacy, teaching each other new things, netflix & chilling, and occasional outings?
About me:
Random other interests include: youtube, video/board games, podcasts, hiking trails, intellectual conversation, entrepreneurial ideas, documentaries, comedy, DIY, E-Commerce, golf, anime, dogs, working out/gymming (and currently bulking), home improvement, trying new foods, festivals/concerts/conventions, meeting new people, and whatever gets me off my phone. I am frequently complimented on my conversational flow, hygiene, and approachability.
You:
Hoping we could be consistent – I understand there should be some mutual attraction and chemistry. Open to more it there's consistency, respect, and good connection. If you’re interested, message/chat me a brief description of yourself / what you’re looking for and a pic! (More than just a hi!) You don’t have to send a pic, but I’m more likely to reply if you do. Safety first!
If this post is still up, it means I'm still searching
Looking for size queen that is into getting their pussy stretched. Below the belt, I’m thick but not super long. You’re welcome to bring your large toys haha; maybe DVP. Also a huge plus if you’re into or interested in fisting
I can host; feel free to message me, I’m an open book
Hi and thanks for reading.
Yes, it's very specific, but that's exactly what I'm looking for:
A very skinny girl with the smallest boobs for boob play. Can be a one time thing or ongoing. I'd love something ongoing with the right girl.
Very, very small boobs preferred Aa cup? Less than that? I'm serious about small, FLAT, no chest. The smaller your boobs are the hotter <3
My idea is to start with boob play and go from there. I'm open to doing more if we both feel comfortable. I consider myself kinky.
About me:
I'm an educated and professional. I'm 5'7, 160, thin build and stay active, great hygiene and expect the same. I'm clean, healthy, tested and vasectomy safe.
I'm relaxed and respectful of your boundaries and limits, and I won't ever try anything we don't agree beforehand. My priority is that you always feel comfortable and safe at all times. If you don't enjoy it, neither will I.
If this sounds like fun to you, let's chat, exchange a couple pics and meet! Send me a message!
Please, no endless texts.
I'm willing to verify I'm real via photo or videocall and you should too.
Hope to hear back from you!
men/ts/cd I kindly ask you please do not waste your time or mineIf they don't respond I'll just use the US address... I think that might be my best option
Hello, SoCal!
I'm in town for a concert and I'm looking for a casual hookup. I'm available this Friday and early Saturday. I can host in my hotel room. 28 year old male, clean, ddf, tested, prefer to use protection. I'm looking for someone who is also tested and clean.
I love breastplay but I'm open to muff diving or sex. I'm open to exchanging sfw photos in dm.